Hugs my love I am so sorry...

If you suspect an ectopic pregnancy you need to be in hospital - hopefully you will have made your way there by now...

Miscarriage can be very painful. Mine were early 6 weeks ish and there was significant blood loss, clots and pelvic pain. It's an awful pain as unlike the pain of labour it is only dread and sorrow, rather than the sweet anticipatory pain of labour. This I think exacerbates the pain.

I used herbs to aid the miscarriage, took high doseage of vitamin c and some homeopathy to help. Hot packs and hot baths and showers helped. The pain was only awful for the first day.

Sending you and your DW love support and strength as you say goodbye. I am sorry...