Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #1

[tink07]

Hello everyone

I am new here and just want to say that I am so sorry for each of your losses. Its nice to know that there are other women who do actually understand what you are going through.

I hope you dont mind if i share my story? I had a miscarriage 5 weeks ago - it was our first try and we were so excited to find out we were pregnant. We found out late at 7 weeks as a previous test at 5 weeks came back negative. We were so excited and then the next day I started to spot. I was so excited to be pregnant but so scared that I was bleeding. We decided to tell our parents and siblings as we wanted their support around us - they were so excited. A couple of days later I started to get stomach pains and the spotting got heavier so we went to hospital. I had an a/s and they said that there was no baby in the womb. It had only been 5 days since we found out and we were devastated. My husband said the thing that made him the saddest was he was so excited at the chance of maybe seeing a heartbeat. Its been five weeks and just feel so empty. We are going to wait for a period and then start trying again straight away - we are both so anxious to be able to get pregnant again and I am scared I will m/c again.

Thank you for listening xxx

[Matts Mum]

Hi all,

I too am new here. Thanks for being here although I am very sorry for the circumstances that brought you.

I have one healthy 22 month old son who is just georgeous. I'm not relly sure if I am posting in the right place. Technically I didn't have a miscarriage but I did lose my baby.

I was 13 weeks pregnant with my second child when I had the NT scan. I had to terminate the pregnancy last Thursday as the scan showed many problems with the baby. The baby had mass amounts of fluid under its skin down the length of the back and around the head and neck which developed into a particular type of cyst. They believe this was caused by a blocked duct in the baby which was the result of a chromosome disorder. We had no choice but to terminate as the baby would not have survived to term.

I'm not really sure where to go from here. DH and I were so ready for this baby. We are going to TTC straight away but I have to say I am so scared that this will happen again and we wont be able to have any more children. I can't stop worrying even though the doctors say there was nothing we could have done, it was just unlucky...

We have our followup appt with the OB on the 8th Feb and I can't wait for that. At least we will be able to get confrmation as to whether it was due to a Chromosonal disorder or not.

One of the hardest things is telling everyone that there's no more baby. I haven't been able to face that yet. Thank god for my DH. He has been wonderful handleing that on top of everything else. I am dreading going back to work.

Anyway, that's my story...I hope I haven't rambled on too much. Thanks for all the posts I've read. I'm looking forward to reading many more just for the support and understanding.

Matthew - 5/3/05
Loss of Angel - 11/1/07

[Bun]

Hi all.

It was some time since I last posted here - my last post was after my first m/c and now I am going through my second.

Matts mum - I am so so sorry to hear what you have been through. I cannot even imagine what it would feel like to be told that news and be forced to take that action. Just rest assured that it is very unlikely to happen again. Give yourself time to grieve. We are all here for you, so feel free to come on and write any time you are feeling down. It is only natural to be scared to try again, we are understand that only too well. I hope everything goes well at your appointment - it is on the same day as I have an appointment to try and figure out why I can conceive easily, yet my babies leave way too early. Hopefully we will both have good outcomes. My DH told everyone about our first m/c and was wonderful too, as I couldn't even talk to anyone. I think they try to be strong for us as there is so little they can do yet they want to so much. Take your time going back to work - I was dreading it too, and all the questions, etc. Just go back when you are ready and if you don't want to talk about it, just tell everyone you don't want to talk about it; most will get the message and just leave you alone.

tink - so sorry to hear your story. It is only natural to worry that you will m/c again. The stats are all in your favour though, and you are more than likely to carry the next one to term. Take time before you start to try again to be sure you are ready. I was not ready to TTC again and we did, and fell again first go. I was an absolute wreck right from the beginning and lost it at only 5.5 wks. Part of me thinks that the reason I lost it was because I was freaking out so much from the get go that there is no way my body could have supported it. I think it is important to be sure that you are ready to try again, so don't rush into it. And when you are ready to try again and are pg again, the girls here are all so supportive and will help you through this time.

kyls, Rose & Jane - hi and sorry for your losses. Feel free to keep writing here for support. I am thinking of you all

Bun xx

[Matts Mum]

Thanks Bun & Janeo.

I am very glad I didn't have to give birth on top of everything else. That must have made things so much worse.

The scariest thing is not knowing if it is going to keep happening. It has really made me sure that it is a large family that I want. I'm trying not to wory too much as I know that can make it even more difficult.

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Matts Mum (32) DH (38)

Matthew - 5/3/05
11/1/07 - 13 weeks and 3 days