Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #1

[diva det]

hey girls
guess i belong here as well
we lost our bubba at 12 weeks as well. This bubba took 4 years of trying with IVF, natrupathic, reflexology, and anything else that could help. Finally we got a sticker with a FET. Everything was going really well and was feeling bubba moving around and feeling crook as.
Went for my 12 week scan and found out that the heart had stopped a couple of days before. No signs, no symptoms - nothing
so had to have a suction currette
so here i am - stil really sad- but getting there. I am finding it hard to cope with as i can't just get pg again easily. If i knew it could happen again- it would make it a bit easier -but it is such a struggle to even get that far
I know that there are a couple of us that were due around the same time in april 2008, so would love to chat with those that are going through the same type of thing, as well as those that have been there before.
thanks
odette

[nicjay]

Odette - I am unfortunately in exactly the same postion as you at the moment

I found out on Tuesday at my 12 wk appt that our bub had passed away. I had no signs (except for a gut feeling that something was wrong, I so wish I had acted earlier on it ) and still had pg symptoms right up until the curette was done. I'm sure also that having no ms was a sign for me that things weren't right - I had terrible ms with my DD.

I am still very much struggling to cope with everything that has happened this week - I just wish the next few weeks would suddenly disappear so I can start to feel a bit better.

We conceived this bub on my first cycle of Clomid, so while we have had a few troubles conceiving, we have had nothing like you have been through. I'm hopeful we should conceive again fairly easily on Clomid. So I guess I can't help much with that side of things, you do have my sympathies Maybe just hold on to the knowledge that you have conceived once now - there must be a good chance that the FET will work again for you.

Anyway, I hope I haven't said the wrong thing at all, and if you want to chat I'll be around.

Nicambahar - sorry to hear you are not doing well today I know exactly how you feel. I just cry at the drop at the drop of a hat lately. I guess the only advice I can give you is to take it as it comes - that's what I'm trying to do, not very successfully I must admit I just feel like my life has changed forever.