Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #1

Thankyou Dianne. :hug:

Char-leighs mum - Congratulations on your surprise bfp. I so hope you have an uneventful and healthy pg. Im so sorry for the loss of your precious baby girl at 36 weeks, I cant begin to imgine how hard that would be for you. My Dr said I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome based on my bloodwork. Ive never heard of Factor V Leiden mutation, but Im glad the clexane injections will help you too. :hug:

Freya - Yes I have the same disorder as you. I hope this means we can both keep our babies after this. Im sorry you are stuck in the holding pattern until your DH returns. It must be so hard for you dealing with this and your three little boys all without your DH. Im glad he will be returning home for good so you can start baby making again! :hug:

Dantri - Im so glad you are TTCing again. Its great to hear you are feeling that fluttery excitement again. I am too now that I have answers. Now lets bring on those wonderful winter BFPs!

Pac - I hope that your AF arrives and passes quickly so you can start to TTC! How exciting!

Telly - Ouch! I hope your finger is feeling better. Thankyou also for your kind message in my other thread. I really hope we can be belly buddies again.

Well things are on the back burner for me now! We've decided to go private with the next baby, so have just signed up for health insurance. I have to birth the baby after 12 months, so will start trying after christmas. I'm annoyed, but at the same time Im beginning to think this will work better for us anyway. My DS might be a better age then, he isn't as mature as DD - so the extra year will be good for him :)

On another note, my DD got accepted into Kindy today. Next year, 5 day fortnight. Will be her first ever daycare type of thing. I'm excited and nervous... Must be time to have another! lol!

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We can be TTC buddies Telly!

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We can be TTC buddies Telly!

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Bring on our September babies :D

Hi ladies,

Was wondering if I may join you... We said good bye to our little man Hugh two a weeks ago at 14 weeks.... I am not sure where I fit in at the moment in these forums so I will start here! Well I did post in the TTC after Loss but I guess we aren't ttc yet - Oh gee I don't where I am at the moment....

I am so sorry that you have lost your precious ones....

Welcome Chepie :hug:

Telly; Sept babies are pretty cool, I have one already - he turns 5 on the 26th :( I keep thinking how cool it would be for us to conceive while we are in Europe lol

How have you been Chepie, been thinking of you.
Sorry to hear of your loss Harp.

Regards,
Dianne

September babies are the coolest.....I'm a September baby :ROFL:

Chepie - Sorry you have to join us here. Big hugs hun.

I'm cranky, tired and feeling off. Sure sign AF is about to show her ugly self. :)

Thanks for thinking of me... bit of a mess today ..... Going back to work tomorrow and I don't want to go, I just want to hide away from everything..... It hurts so much at the moment I can hardly breathe xxox

So sorry for your loss Chepie. Thinking of you sweety :hug:

Chepie :comfort:

I"m so sorry....... :hug:

Welcome to our group, you are more than welcome to join us xx

Thanks for the warm welcome ladies..... so sorry we are all here :shakehead: ..... Well I went to work today - it was hard esp when a close friend emailed me with his happy news that they are expecting their first due one week after us, asking for heaps of info and having their baby where we would have... Don't get me wrong I am so very happy for them but gee it hurt and I cried at my desk.... He didn't know about Hugh ...... But he wants to catch up- I don't know if I can face them but its not their fault and I don't want to be mean but I will look at her and think that should be me - gawd I sound like a cow

Chepie I saw lay it out for him. That you lost Hugh and while you are very very happy for them, for now you have to be selfish and worry about you; but that in a little while you'll be happy to give them what they need :hug:

Oh chepie :hug: sorry to hear your day was tough. You don't sound like a cow at all, we've all been there, and completely understand those feelings. One of the hardest things is , that every one else's life just moves on, while your swallowed in grief ... It really does rip your heart out.

I think I'm with freya on this one, you should tell them about Hugh, if you don't they're going to continue "rubbing it in", without even knowing that they're doing it, you know?

PAC- I didn't get a chance to reply to your thread earlier, and couldn't have the motivation to search for it now (on phone). But just wanted to say that yes, I do believe friendships run their course. It is unfortunate, but it does happen. Something very similar happened to us, we even bought a house 2 minute walk from :) At first, it was very awkward, but over time I've grown to not really care, and not invest so much emotion. I hope you can find peace in that your friendship is not as it once was. :hug:

Hello to everyone else. Mwah x

I'd probably let them know too, chepie. Let them know what you're okay with and guide them. I had to do it with SIL, I was fine talking about her pg - to a degree.

Telly - thanks hun. My supposed two closest friends forgot my birthday. And I even have one of them on FB where she would have had the reminder! (the one I was talking about today doesn't have FB). Today just brought it to the forefront of my mind. How are you going?

Oh Chepie :hug: you don't sound like a cow at all. A few days after losing Emmanuel I was shopping and saw 3 pregnant ladies, it just brought me to tears and I ended up having to leave my trolley and get out. Sorry your first day at work was so hard.

Regards,
Dianne

Just a weird little woohoo; AF showed herself yesterday RIGHT ON SCHEDULE! I nearly fell off the toilet when I noticed lol She's being kind to me to, no cramps or anything and not really heavy. Which is good because I have a 2yo with a severe ear infection and tonsilitis so Im kinda stretched to my limit right now.

Hopefully she will keep on track now. Dh was no pleased to hear this last night because apparently he could be arriving home at a similar time to when AF would be due and he will be mighty unimpressed if he is barred from me for a week :rofl:

LOL Freya, poor DH! Glad she's being kind to you :happydance: Got my fingers crossed it continues without giving you any grief.

Oh freya!! That would realllly suck if she shows up as hubby arrives :( but good news that she's on time! We'll be suffering major morning sickness before we know it, ha!

Boring day here, mwah x

Chepie - hope you've come to a plan that your comfortable with. Hugs to you, you don't sound like a cow at all. I get it. I couldn't say congratulations or even talk to a family friend who is pregnant and due a few weeks after I was today. I just walked away and pretended I didn't see her. I felt awful but I just couldn't do it. I wasn't ready. Even though I'm happy for her.

Freya - big yay for things going to schedule. It's so nice after the crap our bodies put us through when they work properly. Hope she is kind to you.

Telly - with this beautiful weather, green landscapes and gorgeous wildflowers here at the moment it just screams nature and beauty and new life. I think it would be an absolutely awesome month to have a baby. Good luck, Christmas will be here before you know it.

Hope everyone else is going okay :)

I have a slightly TMI question for you all. Does anyone else feel different down stairs after a m/c? I'm not sure if even being pregnant for the short time I was (my first) could even change anything but it feels different while DTD and it felt wrong wearing a tampon when AF was here. Not painful just wrong and uncomfy like things have moved in there. I know the way I think and feel about my body is VERY different now so it could just be a mind thing but just wondered what everyone else thought. It's annoying too because "things" that have "worked" for us (while DTD) in the past don't seem to be doing so as much now. It's weird.


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Hi Girls - joining in here if it's ok.....I just suffered my 2nd early miscarriage in as many months, I'm 38, I have an almost 2 year old and desperately trying to give her a sibling before the darn body clock ticks over any more. I'm struggling with this one more than the first, I guess I never thought it would happen to me, I'm healthy and people tell me I don't look my age (not that that means anything I guess) and I fell within 3 months after going off the pill after 20 years with my daughter so expected it to be easy again. I'm seeing a fert specialist next month, due to my age after 6 months of trying they tend you recommend it, I think it might be a luteal phase defect as I track my cycles and have always only had an average of 11 days which is borderline anyway, but the last few months I've been getting AF after only 23 days, with a few days spotting first, as I ovulate on day 12 that's not so good. Just sick of everyone around me getting pregnant, all my mums group friends are all pregnant again, of course they're all younger than me but some of them got pregnant first go and weren't even fussed if it took 6 months. So unfair. Anyway, I hope we can all start to get some BFP's soon, we deserve it. I haven't read to catch-up everyone's posts yet but Dantri re the feeling different after a miscarriage, I actually have felt that way after having my daughter, I had an emergency c-section so not sure if that's had something to do with it but ever since I find tampons really irritating and only use them occasionally which sucks really as I hate wearing pads. Perhaps it's in our minds, who knows.

Hi girls, I'm going to join here for a bit too. I'm in a few lttc threads but needing a bit of m/c support too.

Alison- I fell pregnant 1 month after we started trying, that was a blighted ovum and nearly 3 yrs later I have nothing to show for it but pregnancy losses and a drained bank account! ( oh, and a deranged mind lol). TTC in your late 30s is not for the faint hearted, thats for sure. Sorry to hear about your losses, I ovulate on CD12 too but since my 1st m/c my cycles have been varying lengths, I understand your frustration. I hope the FS can give you some insight!

Dantri- I haven't noticed any difference, we'd had a fair break from dtd when i was pregnant cs i was on progesterone supps and we were paranoid, but when we commenced again DH did remark it felt 'normal'- i laughed when he said that but maybe there is sometimes a difference.

I need to read back a bit before any more persies, so will get onto that.
I am just wavering between wanting to do another embryo transfer soon ( we have 2 frozen embryos left) or to try naturally for a few months, not sure what to do.
I'm only 2 wks post my m/c, so I probably shouldn't even be thinking about it yet but you all know what its like- we want to get UTD ASAP!

Yesterday... My worst nightmare came true. I should be 11 weeks .. instead I've have my baby .. forever sleeping in me right now and to know it has been like that since 6.5 weeks ... Words fail me.

:comfort: oh hun..... so so sorry to hear that, its cruel xx

Tascha :grouphug: there are really no words. Sometimes life is just so unfair. Please know we care.

Big hugs tascha. It's just awful that we have to go through this.


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Big hugs Tascha, I'm so sorry for your loss xx :hug:

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Hi Girls - joining in here if it's ok.....I just suffered my 2nd early miscarriage in as many months, I'm 38, I have an almost 2 year old and desperately trying to give her a sibling before the darn body clock ticks over any more.

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I find tampons really irritating and only use them occasionally which sucks really as I hate wearing pads. Perhaps it's in our minds, who knows.

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:hug: so sorry about your losses.

BTW - I hate pads too, but, I LOVE mooncups. Well worth a try. Doesn't suck you dry like tampons do.

Hi Maruschke - thanks so much, I shouldn't complain really, there are other people in sadder situations than me, but a loss is a loss no matter how early huh.

I should look into those mooncup things, I can use tampons, just don't find them as easy to get a comfy spot as I used to for some reason! We seem to be in a similar spot, my little girls is almost 2 as well and I had a m/c in June 2011 and Sept 2011. Let's cross our fingers we all get sticky ones next huh. I'm seeing a fert specialist in October, just got the paperwork, geez lucky we have no secrets eh, the questions they ask! Good luck with your IUI soon xx

Tascha, Alison, Marushke, Chepie and Saffy - Welcome. Im so very sorry for all your losses and that you have had to join this thread. I wish none of us were here. :comfort:

Dantri - I felt different after my DS, so I guess pg does change our bodies, no matter how long or short they were pg for. :hug:

Freya - I hope your all feeling better now. I hope AF stays away when your DH returns.

Telly - I hope the next few months pass quickly so you can start ttc again.

Pac - Hi, I hope you are well.

Hi everyone

dantri - I've not noticed feeling different after a m/c. I've had both d&c and natural, but everything has gone back to normal. But in saying that, I don't use tampons, so I can't really comment about that. We also took a break after each time, don't know if that makes a difference or not.

Alison - I'm sorry you have to be part of this thread :hug: Hope you get a BFP soon.

Saffy - Sorry for you loss too hun. I know what you mean though, about wanting to just be UTD as soon as possible. But then I get spooked and shy away from it again.

Tascha - I'm so sorry :hug: I wish things were different for all of us. Hope you're okay.

Marushke - Welcome back to BB, but I'm sorry you're joining us here. I've always loved your avvy so it stood out for me when I saw you pop back in. Hope you're going okay.

Diamond Girl - I'm okay, how's everything with you? :)

Telly - Counting the days down? Thinking of you.

Hi to anyone I missed :)

AFM - Still just waiting for time to pass. Seems to take forever. I've been reading the thread about how many losses and can't quite believe how many little people should have been born and how many hearts have been broken. It's shocking. Whilst I love this site for the support it gives, I hate it for making me so aware of how common loss is and how many people are suffering. This should be easy and special, not something to be dreaded. Makes me very aware of how lucky I am to have a child. I'm feeling pretty good otherwise, trying to eat well, lots of salads and getting some fruit into me.

Morning.. if I may, I would like to ask a few questions?

At my 11 week check up, I found out my baby passed at 6.5 weeks. I started to miscarry naturally yesterday and have been in agony since. Bleeding so much and doubled over with pain. It was no where near as bad with my last miscarriage. Is this normal? I'm struggeling to function .. let alone look after my boys today. Just want this nightmare to end!

Sorry you are going through this hun, just keep an eye on your blood loss if it seems excessive maybe go to the hospital :hug:.

Regards,
Dianne

Take some pain killers hun, if you are still in pain and the bleeding is not slowing down you need to go to an emergency department, if you are soaking a pad in less than 1/2 an hour thats too heavy and needs attention. Sorry you are going through this, can someone come over and watch your boys? xx

Managed by a shear miracle to get to my family today. I've managed to get my hands on some serious pain killers. So that's better now. The bleeding is excessive. I'm managing to get the majority in the toilet.. but its non stop. I've I didn't .. my maternity pads would not last long at all. I'm in good hands at the moment .. and they are happy for me to see if it calms down this arvo. Fingers crossed no emergency department for this one.. I've had enough drama this week.

Thank you ladies!

Hi Tascha, so sorry you're going through this, how are things this evening? I can totally sympathise with you, I just had an early miscarriage (my 2nd in 4 months) and I can tell you I was only 4 weeks and I have only just stopped bleeding today, I started last Monday and for the first 2 days I was going through about 4/5 pads in about an 8 hour time frame, I did lose quite a big clot the 2nd day and it started to slow down a little after that but it was pretty heavy for 4 days, I said to DH that I didn't understand after only 4 weeks where it all came from so I can only imagine how much there'd be further along. I was also downing about 4 Nurofen Plus to even touch the sides at the pain, I couldn't sleep for the first night it was so bad but again after 2 days that went back to a dull normal AF type pain and then by day 3/4 the pain was totally gone. I hope you're ok, for some reason it's like as soon as the bleeding stops the sad emotional feeling lessens a little, maybe having the bleeding is just too much of a reminder for us. xx

Hi ladies,

Hope everyone is okay :grouphug:

Dantri - How are you going? I ended up telling my friend what happened and he was lovely, but wants to catch up and I can't handle seeing his beautiful pregnant wife so I have just ignored the email and him!

Saffy - on hun I am so sorry you are here, hope your going okay xx

Maruschke - Hugs beautiful lady xx

Tascha - Hope that you are okay too xx

Telly - Hows things going with you hun?

PacRakMG- How are you?

Alison1973 - Hi hun I am sorry for your loss xx

Hope everyone is okay xx

chepie how are you coping? :hug:

tascha - how are you now? hope you are hanging in there. i know it's very tough and sad and i've been thinking of you :hug:

Hello ladies. Thank you all for your support.

Im not a great deal better. Still passing clots.. day 4 and another terrible night doubled over in pain. OB appointment this afternoon. And if there is anything left I'm asking for a d&c. Hubby is working everyday and not al lot of family around me to help. I need my body back so I can look after my kids. Fingers crossed.

Sorry for the me me post again. Hope to be returning the support before the week is up.

Thank you for listening and tiger support ladies. Means a lot.

thats terrible! I agree, you can't function like that, I hope the OB has some answers, until then take it easy Tascha, xx