Im struggling OP, big time. So far no bleeding, just the usual stretching cramps/aches but I am so far beyond optimistic its not funny. I just want it to be over, either way Playing phone tag with my OB to try and get a script for clexane so I can grasp some hope from taking that.
Porsche - I think I'll probably be more like April too to be honest, by the time AF comes again which could take 6 weeks it will be March already and then I have to wait the 2 weeks to O and do the treatment yada yada, so likely April for me too. I won't be telling too many people next time either, just going to let my family know as soon as I get a BFP, I kept it quiet from them and told my close friends/playgroup friends which I should've done the other way around as my family were the ones i needed when it failed, my friends barring a few haven't been very supportive since so I've learnt my lesson there.
Chepie/Ocean Princess - I'm sorry you're having flat days, just when you think you have yourself under control something snaps you back to the dark place doesn't it, I'm only just beginning the healing process and I'm still in the zone where I'm glad it's over, but I think the reality that I'm no longer officially pregnant is just starting to hit me now. I don't think my DH really understands, he's not very good at showing emotions at the best/worst of times so he's really not said anything, makes you feel like you're alone doesn't it. Men, grrrr.
Freya - what is that drug you mentioned for? Is it a form of progesterone? It sucks that normally you should be able to just worry about feeling sick and not having to think that every twinge or feeling is destruction about to happen. Miscarriages ruin all that and it sucks so bad. I am praying that all will be ok for you and this is your time now.
Hi everyone else, how are we all coping today? I think we should all make a pact, get pregnant at the same time and start up our own special thread, how nice would that be!
I have a weird question, I hope you don't all think I'm strange, but does anyone know when you have a D&C and they send it away for testing (like mine has been), are they able to tell the sex of the embryo/fetus when they do the chromosome testing etc? I know it has a sex by that stage so surely they can....I feel sad that i don't even know whether my little one was a girl or boy, how can you grieve properly without knowing. It had a heart beat, it was a human being,my baby, why can't we know?
Alison - umm I'm sure....... I undertand what you mean about not knowing, though I think my last m/c was a boy.... I have managed to guess all my genders so far!! So I am sticking with that. I hope you get some answers.... And yes lets all do it together!!
**TMI*** Last Wed I got my first period after my m/c.. it is really weird very light then heavy then light then heavy .... blackish blood and bright red, little tiny clots that kind of look gritty... and so while today is day 7 it's really heavy??? Sorry to be graphic but I have never had a period like this!!!
Alison - I have a clotting disorder that may or may not have been the cause behind my miscarriages and a host of pregnancies issues with Ds1 & 2 so I have to do daily shots of clexane pretty much from now until 36wks to increase the chances of a healthy pregnancy. Its a blood thinner. My miscarriages risk currently sits at 1 in 2; taking the clexane would take it back to 'normal' ranges of 1 in 6.
Hi ladies
I havent been in here for a while because although you are a lovely bunch of ladies but sometimes its too real here itms but other times its a great support network.
Ive started seeing a therapist and after events on my birthday my medication has increased.
Im so embarrassed about this on my birthday i was telling dh i was going to kill myself one day so i can see Anthony. I didnt really mean it but the idea at the time, the longing to be near him was scary.
Porsche - I get that, I feel compelled to know, I have a feeling mine was a boy, just a strong feeling, I think I'm destined for 2 girls in the end. Just another feeling.
Freya - aaah right, how scary to have that but at least there's something you can take. I was on aspirin this pregnancy but the FS said she's putting me on something else along those lines next time, my main issue is practically no progesterone on the 2nd half of my cycle when it's needed most but they're throwing a host of things at me next time, fun fun, not.
Hi Mrs S - we havent met but I'm sorry to hear of your story, it's so sad and I cannot imagine how it must feel to lose a bub at that stage. I am struggling with 8 weeks for goodness sake. I hope your therapy can bring you some peace.
Chepie - after my 2 chemical miscarriages I got AF 30 and 28 days after, they were pretty heavy for the first couple of days but otherwise normal. Not sure what to expect this time and how long does it take, is it really about 6 weeks?
AFM - after my D&C on Monday I have hardly any bleeding at all, it's practically spotting, is this normal? I expected bleeding like a period - the sheet they gave me said it can take 7 days. Not that I'm complaining as I'll be happy if it means she got it all out but I was just wondering if this was the norm?
Alison - I too feel my 2 lost ones were boys. I just have this gut feeling. I had spotting and light bleeding for the first 4-5 days and then nothing for 1 day and then back spotting and light bleeding for another 7 or so days. My previous D&C I had clotts and heavy bleeding and then spotting for almost a month. I think whatever your body is doing is 'normal'.
MrsS - I'm sure your meltdown was a sign that you needed help. I'm glad the councellor is helping and I'm sure in time your medication will be decreased. It's a long slow process but I know you'll get there.
Last edited by Porsche; February 13th, 2012 at 10:53 AM.
Alison - I forgot to mention, I bled lightly for just over 2 weeks after my d&c.. Everyone is different. Just remember to take care of yourself, go gentle. And don't feel embarrassed if you need to cry. You lost your baby - don't be so hard on yourself.
Telly - Glad to hear from you. I think of you often too.
Alison - My experience has been quite different with each D&C, with the first two I bled like a period, had some pretty big clots and lots of pain for the next few days. With the last one I had next to no bleeding for the first week (no need for a pad for days 2-5 after D&C), then it started up like a period the next week (which I thought was strange) and lasted 2 weeks. I ended up with a 7 week cycle.
Mrs S - You poor thing. Its so cruel to lose a baby, especially so late. I wish he were here with you. I guess it shows you never, ever get over it, do you.
Freya - Still wishing you all the sticky vibes in the world. Good luck with the clexane.
Chepie & OP - Im pretty flat too. AF has just arrived
Porsche - I found out one of mine was a girl and the others Im not sure, but I think it was a mix of boys and girls.
AFM - we are back on the TTC rollercoaster starting this month. All I want is a sticky bubba this time! Please, please, pretty please!!!
Thanks DG - I didn't have hardly any bleeding either but today there's a little bit again so it's obviously just up and down.
First day back at playgroup today after the school holidays, really struggled, 3 of the girls are pregnant, due within the next few months - I found myself not being able to look at them, I hate being like this.
Alison - I found that too. I am ok, now, with people who are pregnant and due far far from when I would have been. The one I still struggle with is when they are due when I would have been. Go gently.
DG - all the very best hun. I really pray this one will be a sticky one for you.
MrsS - really hope this is a turning point for you hun. Please don't be embarrassed - no judgement here.
Alison its very normal to feel that way, people with prams, baby sections of shops everything used to get me and id breakdown. I am better now but there are still many times ill breakdown over something that reminds me of anthony, i usrd to be really jealous of people with baby boys
Playing phone tag with my OB to try and get a script for clexane so I can grasp some hope from taking that. 
I'm sure your meltdown was a sign that you needed help. I'm glad the councellor is helping and I'm sure in time your medication will be decreased. It's a long slow process but I know you'll get there.
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