Kristy
:hugs: I am so deeply very sorry for the loss of your precious beautiful baby boy.
I know the future weeks, and even days just seem too painful to be able to carry on through,,,,but just try to only think one day ahead at a time, and be kind to yourself hun,,,,,Greif knows no time frame, so dont rush yourself
As Jayne posted above, it does help cope with the loss a bit if you can in your own way, create a tribute to your little one, wether it be a display/shrine, plant a tree or flowers in a dedicated spot, scrapbook a diary album of your little one, etc.
I lost my precious Kaitlyn at 30 weeks, with no reason found, and have got a display cabinet full of things i have bought for her birthdays/christmas each year, little angel and fairy figurines, tiny teddies etc,,,,around a precious photo i have of her. This way, anyone who comes into my home, and even my own children know how much a very special and loved person she was, and still is in our hearts.
It doesnt matter if family, or other people dont understand why you need to do something special for your little one,,,as it is not for them, it is for you. Many a hard lonely night after everyone else had gone to bed, I found myself just going through the photos i have of her, and looking through all the precious things we have bought for her,,,,it helped me cry, and release the pain, and gradually after alot of time, i even managed a smile for the love I have for her being in our lives.
We are all here for you hun, so please, dont hesitate in letting us help you through this time.
I am so sorry for the loss of your son ~Harrison ~ and his twin.I to lost my daughter ~Charlotte~@26weeks to unknown reasons.All these bubs are created with so much love that is why it hurts so much to lose them.
God bless you and give you strength.
We will never stop missing our children and wishing things could be different. but it does get better.Right now it seems like bad dream but you do get through the storm and see rainbows.
As Lil Aussie said - create memories as many as you can because they help in the grieving and healing.Draw on your great personal strength as you continue this journey. You are the proud mother of 2 little beautiful angel babies. Though it is not as we intended the love continues.I hope and pray the future holds much happiness in regards to more children.
There is NOTHING I could possible say to ease your pain. But know that in time it does get a little better. Even 2 yrs down. The horrid sadness turns to [bitter]sweet memories.I know that many may mean well in the things they say, but most of the time they make no sense to us in our grieving.
I met a mum who lost her daughter over 40 yrs ago and she still sheds a few quiet tears but also remembers the incredible love.I know our beautiful angels are watching over us always. Trish "~♥~ DD Charlotte Rose 1/9/04 26wks ~♥~"
Samuel & Joel God's Gifts 1st July 06 - here after 14yrs of waiting
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