Toomanyshoes, I'm very sorry for your loss.

To answer your questions yes, I avoided newborns & young bubs in general as well. Which was horrible for my SIL as she felt awfull that her bub (who was about 4 months at the time) was making me feel awful - which made me feel worse - but she understood. I also avoided pregnant people, but as time goes on it gets easier. You sort of come to terms with the fact that you will have a baby one day and it will be all yours and very special to you.

I think you have to do what is comfortable for you first, and also your DH. Perhaps if you do go just let him in that you're not feeling the best so he can be there by your side when people make snide remarks, after all you are in this together.

Much love to you and your Family, hun and I'm very sorry you've had to experience this