Hi Julie, thanks for pointing me to this thread. I am really sorry you are going through all this! You know my experiences with the ectopic etc...which wasn't seen on my early scans...however, by 8 weeks i was having pain from the ectopic, and the fact you are not, seems a good sign to me.
The drug is methotrexate...(sp?) it's a drug also given to treat rheumatoid arthritis and other things.
I hope soon you will know what's going on. I think I too would be opting for the D&C.
You really don't deserve all this stress on top of the loss you've already had. I know what it feels like to be back and forth with this stuff, and it is really stressful and upsetting. Sending you my best wishes and hoping things get better very soon