This is my first time here i dont realli know where to start
I had a miscarriage 4weeks ago now and i cant move on im only young but im finding it difficult to get thru
My bf is staing to blame himself for putting pressure on e to have the baby
i dunno what to do because it was my fault
The last thing you need to do is blame yourself. It's only natural to feel sadness and to have difficulty getting past it. Take the time to grieve for your baby. The ladies here will give you the support and understanding you need.
I'm sorry you've experienced this. RIP, little angel
Oh sweet my heart goes out to you. As the others girls said don't blame yourself and it is ok to be sad - you have had a loss. Do you have someone you can talk to? I haven't had a loss but I have found this site very helpful in getting the support I have needed for other reasons. Big hugs to you.
I had my first loss 3 months ago. I'm still not over it, i still have days where i just cry and cry, i too blame myself i blame my body i keep thinking "if i was more fit and healthy it wouldn't have happened" but really it happens for a reason nothing we did caused it
I found talking to other women who had been through the same made it easier to cope. What about a counsellor, could you try talking to one of them?
Teenloss - It's so hard not to run through the 'what ifs' and 'if only's'. But seriously. You did not cause this. The sad fact is that there was nothing anyone could have done to prevent it. As cruel as it is, it's mother nature's way.......... survival of the fittest.. whatever. But none of this makes it any easier, I know. Please be gentle on yourself. Being more aware would have done nothing more than torture you, knowing for sure what was happening. No good can come from that honey.
You're going to hear a lot of insensitive comments as time goes by. But here is a safe place for you to talk, cry, scream, anything. I think seeing a counsellor could be helpful in sorting through your feelings.
I couldn't read and not reply, please don't blame yourself.
UNfortunately these things occur and from what you may well see here on BB it's more common than we realise, it's a very sad part fo this forum but there is also lots of support for you.
Please don't blame yourself, have you got anyone you can open up to, do you have access to see a counsellor through your local doctor or something.
It may well help.
Oh huni, its normal to blame yourself but its really not fair. Some babies are just not meant for this earth no matter how much their mum and dads wanted them or loved them. I am so sorry you are having to feel this pain. Please be kind on yourself!
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I had my first loss 3 months ago. I'm still not over it, i still have days where i just cry and cry, i too blame myself i blame my body i keep thinking "if i was more fit and healthy it wouldn't have happened" but really it happens for a reason nothing we did caused it
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