Hi Sara,

Really sorry that Reid could not stay and praying that you will come back and update this thread later this year.

When we lost our first bub I was desperate to TTC again but my body didn't allow me. I had PCOS and didn't have any cycles at all for six months afterwards so was desperate to try but physically unable to. It hurt like crazy.

Then AF reared her ugly head on EXACTLY the same LMP date as the cycle when our first angel bub was conceived the year before. I was beside myself with grief because if I conceived that cycle our second bub would techically have had the same EDD as our angel bub.

Well, guess what happened - yes DS1 was conceived that cycle. My true EDD ended up being later due to dating scans as I actually had an irregular cycle again. DS1 was born 2 weeks after what I will always consider should have been his elder siblings first birthday and in the same month. Honestly, now I don't mind so much about the date as when DS was first born as it has now been several years and three children later but I still want to remember my first baby that never made it that time of year.

In another strange coincidence, the actual date I miscarried became the LMP date three years later when DS2 was conceived and his EDD was actually the LMP date from my first two pregnancies - so how is that for congruence.

I believe the spirit of my first bub was telling me something about timing. Even though these dates came with painful memories these dates were also relevant for two successful pregnancies. I believe my first baby was telling me in a weird way that the timing was exactly right for me to have more babies after him even though the significant dates had painful memories and were linked to my first unsuccessful pregnancy, it was what he wanted. Call me weird!

I guess my message is, don't worry what others think. It is you and your DH's feelings that are important in deciding when you are ready to TTC again and other people are unlikely to say anything negative if they say anything at all. Truly I think the timing of your next baby is predetermined and I honestly believe that if you happen to conceive and have a baby due around the same time Reid was born, then that is what is meant to be and it will be that way because that is what Reid wants for you.

Wishing you much happiness and healing in 2012.

TICKLISH