My only advice is to take some time to heal first rather than rushing into a decision. Give yourself plenty of time. It took me a month to just get my head above water, but it took months more to really start healing.

Honestly? In 9 days, it will be the anniversary of when we found ourselves in the same position. Like you, we had thought we were free of IVF and suddenly... it all went wrong. I'd like to say that, a year later, I can answer the questions you are asking, but the truth is I'm still asking them myself. The only question we have answered is that we used our one frozen embryo. I still don't know if we'll do another IVF and I don't know if I can come to terms with DD being an only child. All I can really say is that I understand what you're feeling and you are not alone.

I'm so sorry, hun. I wish none of us ever had to go through this. I hope the d&c brings you the answers you seek.