What did you do on bubs 1st death anniversary?

[blessedatlast]

Today is 1yr since Taite and Seth died.. For their birthday we had a balloon release and acknowledged it so I thought we just might treat today like any other.. I was feeling ok yesterday but this morning I am a mess.. DP has gone to work (like a normal day) With barely a mention of it.. What do I do today?? I have no idea what I want to do.. So how did you spend the day?

[Spring Angel]

Firstly sweetie, I am so so very sorry for the loss of your boys. I like to think of my boys anniversary as his angelversary. For his first angelversary I made him a birthday cake in the shape of a number one, and DH and I went to a park for some quiet reflection. I also wrote a birthday card to him with all the things I wanted to say. Other than that there were a lot of tears and quiet reflection.

Perhaps light a candle for each of your boys. I wish I could be there to give you a cuddle in person xxx

Happy Angelversary to Seth and Taite. You are two very loved and very missed little boys. Shine brightly on your Mummy and Daddy today.

Lv Spring xx

[Ozstar]

I am sorry, I have no advice but just wanted to give you loads of hugs

[fourthontheway]

Firstly I'm sorry for your loss and pain, I know how overwhelming it can be. I am approaching the second anniversary of my son's birth/death.

I guess the question is what do you FEEL like doing? You could put some sad music on, go through the photos you have and cry, or you could go to a park and just BE for a while. I like to listen to the music we played at my son's funeral and look at the pics when I need to have a good cry.

On my son's birthday (the same day he died) my friends all over Australia lit candles for him, you could ask people to do that for you aswell.

Lots of love to you at this difficult time, may you find peace within your sadness today.

[amy_o]

I wish I had some ideas for you but I think the best thing I can come up with is do whatever feels right for you.

I am thinking of you and will head off now to light a special candle for your little angels.

[Matthew's Mum]

sorry for the heartache you are enduring,it's so hard.Today do what feels right for you ,everyone is different.My dh did the same as yours but when i went out to Matthew's grave ,he had been there before me and left a flower on it,so he just needed to deal with it as a lot of men do, by not talking about it.My mum ,myself and my other children shared a 'memory cake' around his grave we also did a card for him ,to put in his memory box.I found journalling on the day was good.Hang on to your love and your precious memories you have of them,i have seen thier photo,just gorgeous.So sorry for your loss

[helle]

Jayvan's death/birthday is next friday and I've been wondering the same thing. Just wanted to give you some 's sweets, for both you and your gorgeous boysxx

[JennaJayen]

Hi blessedatlast. I'm really sorry for your loss *hugs*

I have a 4th and 5th anniversary coming up for my first 2 angels in january, and it gets harder every year... especially when I get so wrapped up in my own world that I forget when they died and were due to be born and don't realise it until it's already a week past those two dates

For their 1st anniversaries I made each of them a cake, and burned a candle for them. For my first angel I used to wear those black stretchy bangles, each month I would put a new one on my right arm, and once I got to 13 I would put one on my left and start over again on the right. That was my way of mourning. I also wrote them letters on their due dates and the dates they died.

This year, I prayed and asked them to watch over their little brother, my ds, and keep him safe from harm, and take care of their other two angel siblings in heaven. Next year I'll probably do that again, and make another cake for them to share with my ds. I want him to know about them and that they existed.