What did you do on bubs 1st death anniversary?

[Matthew's Mum]

sorry for the heartache you are enduring,it's so hard.Today do what feels right for you ,everyone is different.My dh did the same as yours but when i went out to Matthew's grave ,he had been there before me and left a flower on it,so he just needed to deal with it as a lot of men do, by not talking about it.My mum ,myself and my other children shared a 'memory cake' around his grave we also did a card for him ,to put in his memory box.I found journalling on the day was good.Hang on to your love and your precious memories you have of them,i have seen thier photo,just gorgeous.So sorry for your loss

[helle]

Jayvan's death/birthday is next friday and I've been wondering the same thing. Just wanted to give you some 's sweets, for both you and your gorgeous boysxx

[JennaJayen]

Hi blessedatlast. I'm really sorry for your loss *hugs*

I have a 4th and 5th anniversary coming up for my first 2 angels in january, and it gets harder every year... especially when I get so wrapped up in my own world that I forget when they died and were due to be born and don't realise it until it's already a week past those two dates

For their 1st anniversaries I made each of them a cake, and burned a candle for them. For my first angel I used to wear those black stretchy bangles, each month I would put a new one on my right arm, and once I got to 13 I would put one on my left and start over again on the right. That was my way of mourning. I also wrote them letters on their due dates and the dates they died.

This year, I prayed and asked them to watch over their little brother, my ds, and keep him safe from harm, and take care of their other two angel siblings in heaven. Next year I'll probably do that again, and make another cake for them to share with my ds. I want him to know about them and that they existed.