sorry for the heartache you are enduring,it's so hard.Today do what feels right for you ,everyone is different.My dh did the same as yours but when i went out to Matthew's grave ,he had been there before me and left a flower on it,so he just needed to deal with it as a lot of men do, by not talking about it.My mum ,myself and my other children shared a 'memory cake' around his grave we also did a card for him ,to put in his memory box.I found journalling on the day was good.Hang on to your love and your precious memories you have of them,i have seen thier photo,just gorgeous.So sorry for your loss