Blessed, when I lost Joshua, the only thing that got me through the pain of losing him was to believe and accept that it did happen for a reason, that's how I got my peace and closure. I think if I didn't believe this, I would have lost the plot. I believe that wherever he is, I will be there with him one day and that makes me happy. I don't believe he is gone forever. I guess people have their own beliefs, and it doesn't necessarily mean that they don't understand pain (especially pain of losing a child) it just means that that's what they belive and hope that it will too bring peace to the other person. I agree that it's better to say 'sorry about your loss' in case you are one of those people who don't believe that things happen for a reason.