Thanks everybody - i'll try to remember the questions:

yes, we will use prefolds - excellent!

ex hospital definitely - especially as they should be nice and thin by now which means they will go in our special "newborn" packs that will be sent out on loan to the local women when they are due to have their bubs. they will return the newborn pack at 6-8 weeks then will get a proper pack to keep. it's all getting very official!

flannyl flats will be in teh same packs.

thanks hayley but no, we won't send disposables as they are likely to be reused - and even if not are likely to not last long enough to make it worth the postage cost to send.

Thanks anyway though - your SIL will appreciate them i"m sure!

thank you thank you thank you!

and thanks for the sticky too!