Toilet Training General Chatter

[Arcadia]

I need a pep talk. (on my phone so excuse spelling)

Dd has been in undies for a few weeks now, even waking dry overnight, but we still have nappies on her jic.

Anyway the last few days have been a big regression. She has done two poos in her pants today alone and several sees over the last three days (one poo and wee in public!)

I tend to pre-empt her toileting by taking her to the toilet wherever we go and before we leave the house etc, but now I realize she isn't actually recognizing the need to go to the toilet, and so will only tell me once she's already started.

Today I lost it. Twice. After a poo AND separate wee accident at home, we had another poo accident out. Despite her just having used the loo. *sigh* I actually cried I felt so bad...I know you're not meant to get cross but three changes of clothes (and shoes) before midday is too much. I just want to stop, but I am worried all my hard work will be undone.

I feel she is ready...but the sudden regression makes me despondent. She is sick...could it be that?

I need some reassurance!!?!

[Arcadia]

Me again...with PROGRESS!

I actually posted this in another thread, but I thought I would put it here too in case someone is reading for info.

After our shocking few days of accidents, I explained to DD "when you feel wees and poos in your tummy you have to run to the toilet". I then started saying "mummy can feel a wee in her tummy, quick I have to go to the toilet" and ran to the toilet saying, quick, quick, quick. That seemed to be a vital piece of info for DD, because she then started saying "quick, quick" when she needed to go, and from there I could prompt her to run to the toilet. She finds it fun too, because we laugh and run through the house etc.

It has meant though we havent had an accident in days. She is also waking dry overnight and from her naps, so I have stopped using nappies in the day at all (I sneak one on her overnight, but 50% of the time she wakes up and takes it off and then uses the potty in the morning).

Its such an ebb and flow process...so anyone struggling. HANG IN THERE!

Phew...now to work out how I manage all this toileting with a newborn!

[Heaven]

Yay anna!!!!! That's great. I might try that with DD.

I am really not sure what to do with DD. She is the one that decided in about Oct last year that she wanted to use the toilet so it wasn't me pushing her or anything and she was going great. She knows when she needs to go for wees and poos and tells me 'need toilet' and runs down there to get her little seat ready. But we have accidents every day still. She gets it but just doesn't want to go sometimes. And that makes it REALLY frustrating because it's like she's doing it on purpose.

So I'm not sure what to do. I keep getting fed up with her and putting a nappy on because I'm sick of cleaning wee up off the floor. But that probably doesn't help things. Not sure if I should keep letting her run around with no nappy at home or just give up for now. But she seemed so ready and sometimes loves going to the toilet and is all proud of herself. Arhhhh!!

[Arcadia]

Oh I hear you sj!! It can be really depressing when you have accidents a lot. I would keep her in undies and keep encouraging her, unless you're having a bad day and feel you couldn't cope with an accident. We also have some structure which helps...wee before we leave the house, wee when we're at a cafe, wee before nap etc. It means she is great at controlling her bladder and can wee on cue, AND you can relax that you're less likely to have accidents.

It's a real forward and back thing though!!! Keep posting everyone!!!

[leckert]

Hello all,

Been lurking a bit cause I knew I'd have to think about this in the future (I figure a bit of extra reading on stuff before they tend to happen helps = not so stressed me). I didn't think I'd be needing to join you guys in the chatter this soon.... but I think DS might be starting to TT apparently when DH (who looks after DS 2 days a week) went to try and change DS's night nappy for a day one, DS refused to have a nappy on until he started weeing. DH explained to DS that that was why he had to wear a nappy (DS was being changed in his room where it's carpeted). Apparently once DH had said this DS went a grabbed nappy to put on. The potty was in the lounge room but DH didn't realise so he didn't have it for the morning wee. Tonight the potty is in DS's room ready for the morning if needed. DS's starting to get some of the toileting things together (not necessarily poop & wee) but the wiping of the bum and the wash hands afterwards is starting. He's also grabbing his nappy while weeing (or afterwards if we ask if he needs a nappy change). So I think we're on the TT path. I wasn't intending to start until next summer - oh well.

[peanutter]

DS1 loves his special toilet seat, but he just likes to sit on the toilet and read books and sing songs!!

He hardly ever uses it ... but he uses the potty just about every time.

Our last 2 TT efforts were complete failures in terms of staying dry over naps and over night, but he now knows exactly what to do with the potty ... small steps, I guess ...

I'm wondering whether pull ups will help him learn about staying dry, but I'm guessing if undies didn't, then maybe he's just not ready ... ?

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[sas85]

Me again...with PROGRESS!

After our shocking few days of accidents, I explained to DD "when you feel wees and poos in your tummy you have to run to the toilet". I then started saying "mummy can feel a wee in her tummy, quick I have to go to the toilet" and ran to the toilet saying, quick, quick, quick. That seemed to be a vital piece of info for DD, because she then started saying "quick, quick" when she needed to go, and from there I could prompt her to run to the toilet. She finds it fun too, because we laugh and run through the house etc.

It has meant though we havent had an accident in days. She is also waking dry overnight and from her naps, so I have stopped using nappies in the day at all (I sneak one on her overnight, but 50% of the time she wakes up and takes it off and then uses the potty in the morning).

Its such an ebb and flow process...so anyone struggling. HANG IN THERE!

That is an awesome, awesome idea! I am going to try this tomorrow.

DD1 Can pee on cue, I take her to the potty or toilet tell her to let her wee wee go and she will pee. But she NEVER tells me when she needs to go, complains often when I say let's do a wee wee on the potty though she's fine when we actually get there and jumps up and rejoices yay when she's done one and wants to wipe herself etc, but apparently it is a terrible interruption to her day, and if I leave it too long between taking her to the toilet she will come up wet and say, "ooo, mummy wee wee (lead me to the puddle), Oh Ellyse, Elly made a mess" Almost proudly!! I'm gonna take a swipe at DH for not being as dilligent as he should have been when I'm at work or feeding Lilah, but still, shouldn't she have told me she needs to go by now, every day I tell her, tell Mummy before you need to do wee wee, when you feel it in your babootzy not after, ok? Nothin. And she narrates every other feeling or incident in her life all day long except that. I had consoled myself that she's only 2 and 3 montsh and my nephews weren't TT till they were over 3, but am now worried as all you ladies kids are younger then her.

[thepixie]

Oh no sas, I am still there and have been for like three months. And I hate to tell you this but it's been getting worse the last few weeks we had ONE weekend where she told me she wanted to go, I thought I was finally getting somewhere, but since then, no it's back to "no, no banks" and violent resistance if I try to take her anyway
Saving grace is that at home where she can do it independently she is fine. For some reason at daycare she is also fine and co-operates ok with toilet trips, but this just makes me feel worse as she will do it for them but not for me.

[ladybird11]

Weellllllllllll, DD has shown massive interest in potty training since my last post - all I did was make up a 'potty progress chart' and after 10 star rewards (just a sticker that she puts onto the chart) she gets a 'fairy surprise'....are rewards ok or am I bad ?

But once that reward chart got her 'in to' training, she is now randomly running up saying 'toilet, toilet' and will run to the potty, pants off and she'll sit on it - she only does a little wee - but its better than nothing..............right?

We still have her in training pants - and she is still weeing and pooing in them...I'm not quite 'active' enough to put her in material underwear (almost 37 wks pg), but after I have this bundle I may look to doing that to get her at least daytime trained...thoughts? Anyone???

I like Arcadia's idea of the 'when I feel wee in my belly' - might try that tact tomorrow!

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

I'm BACK
DD1 has been on and off with the whole TTing since DP has been home, with Dr's appts and the like we've not made a big deal out of it and she's still only young.

Today she wanted knickers, so we let her, she has been on and off the toilet (no potty seat) on her own all day.
On a couple of occassions she has said she did wee's but neither of us were able to verify.
Tonight when we had dinner i put the potty in the kitchen and reminded her half way through if she needed it it was there.

5min later she got down and said she needed to do wees and got on the potty, then said "hey mum, i did a poo"
So we wiped her, flushed and back to teat, a couple of minutes later "i need to do wees now" so she got down and sure enough WEES
After that she decided running naked was fun and ended up doing another 3 wees on the potty before bed.

I am so happy and pleased and proud of her, were making a potty chart and will buy her some stickers, stars for wees and a special sticker for poos, and once she's gotten to 10 stickers she can get a special present.
We've also told her she can't go to 3yr old kinder until she can do wees on the potty, she REALLY wants to go to kinder so were kind of bribing her .

How is everyone else going?

[~StarBright~]

Well done to your DD ZF!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!

We are going slowly but surely here... its getting colder so DS isnt allowed to be naked as much as he would like to, and is now saying "i dont want a nappy" when he has to put pants on, and he is actually remembering to take them off when he needs to wee!! (thats where we were stuck before, he was fine naked, but once pants went on it was all over!!)

And some more progress too from weeing outside to the EERRRGGGHHHH SHOWER!!!!! I let him do it once coz i was changing DD and couldnt get to the door for him, and now he thinks thats his inside loo!!! But i did have a good idea.. i have actually put his potty in there, and now its a game for him to aim in the potty in the shower, so if he misses there isnt alot of pressure, we just turn the shower on and give it a clean and any wee that makes it in the potty we ceriomoniously tip in the toilet!! So he is starting to know how to point his willy and get his wee where it needs to go instead just letting loose lol!! So i think we are on a bit of a winner!! He even went into town yesterday in just pants and no accidents, no weeing either at all, but no accidents!!

Poo on the other hand he still refuses to go on the toilet.. asks for a nappy for poo, but hey one nappy a day i can handle!! One step at a time right!!!

[peanutter]

Thrilled for you!!

We need to get our bums into gear, and start actively using undies again.