Liz, I have had to teach myself to relax about water use. J started flushing the toilet everytime he wet or dirtied a nappy well before he was TTd, and it drove me mad. But to stop him could have set him back a long way in TT, so I tried not to worry about it. T is even worse - he loves washing his hands. Over and over and over. And if I shut him out of the bathroom, he can't use the toilet on his own (he's not TT yet, but I'm trying to encourage him down that path). So I have to find a middle ground there. Because otherwise he'd spend hours just washing and drying his hands LOL.

As for flushing after a wee, well I always think twice too, but he does do it as I think it's an important habit for him to learn. Also, he has to at day care, so that's consistent. He uses the half flush button at least, he knows the other one is just for no 2s.