I really am at a loss, I dont know what to do about TT.
DS just turned 3 this month. He knows how to use the toilet, how to hold his wees, how to get to the toilet on time. However he deperately wants to stay in nappies He doesn't do poo in the toilet, he will sit there for ages, several times and do nothing, then cry with a sore tummy and ask for a nappy. So I give him a nappy to go in then clean him up and put undies on again.
When in undies he rarely has accidents, but getting the undies on him in the morning is hell! He screams and carries on, begging for a nappy instead of undies.
This arvo, he fell asleep in the car and wet himself. He was so frustrated at himself for wetting himself and the car seat that he screamed for 20 mins,no amount of telling him it was ok would calm him down. In the end i put a nappy on him and he settled.
He really isn't bothered when he has wee in his pants, he will stay in them for hours.
What do i do??
Keep on battling him each morning and forcing him to wear undies and use the toilet, in the hope that he eventually gives in and stops begging for nappies, or leave him n nappies and hope like heck that he eventually decides that he doesnt need nappies any more.
Plus there is the whole pressure of every one making rude negative upsetting comments to DS and me about him still being in nappies and still having dummies
what if there were no nappies? maybe try telling him on such-and-such a day all the nappies will be gone (you could even do a countdown on the calender?) and go from there?
good luck hun!
My ds is 3 1/2, and was tt just before his 3rd birthday. We waited until we ran down his regular nappies, bought 1 pack of pull-ups for night-time (coz they looked different from his regular nappies) and told him there were no more nappies, we'd run out and seeing as he was a big boy he could wear jocks. This seemed to work as no amount of searching under his bed or in the cupboard could produce any!
He did still have them for poo though for abour a month, (I had a stash in our bedroom that I'd bring out just for this) I don't know what it is about boys but friends have had the same problem with boys and poo on the toilet. My ds would hold it for up to 2-3 days until his tummy was hard as a rock and he was in terrible pain. We ended up putting one on him for a poo only during the day, then straight off, watching him like a hawk to make sure it was poo he wanted it for not wee! It wasn't until he was at my parents one day and he told his nanna he needed to do a poo that it actually happened on the toilet! After that there was no more issues! I think the first time is the scariest for some reason. He was fine after that!
To reward for doing a poo on the toilet, we bought a much wanted toy and put it on the fridge in clear view but out of reach. He knew that's what he'd get when he did poos on the toilet.
It's a hard one, if he's really upset and fretting about it then maybe call it all off for a month or so. But if he's just playing around then stick to your guns.
TT is one of the hardest parenting things I've done! I found it hard coz it's really all in or all out iykwim? Either go the whole hog and do it or give it up for a while.
You need to do what's right for you and your ds. Really, by the time he starts school no-one is going to remember if he was tt'd at 3 or 3 1/2. You know him best and would know if he's ready or not. Go with your gut instinct.
One other thing we did was just make it matter of fact, didn't make a big deal out of putting jocks on. It was just another part of getting dressed in the morning.
No worries, we got a bit of flack too from friends and family about ds being tt'd late. In the end we started asking them when they were tt'd and how much impact it's had on their life!!! LOL Shut them up pretty quick!
Yes, stick to your guns! Go with it, if he's got the skills, otherwise he will get confused, start losing the skills, lose confidence in himself and it will take even longer. I have seen it happen a lot of times.
Don't be stressed if he only wants to poo in a nappy. He won't be doing it forever. Think about your own poo anxiety - I hate pooing at work, some people won't do it at other people's houses, etc. So poo anxiety is a natural and normal thing. Happens to boys AND girls.
If you have a reward chart system happening, it can really help. Stick with things like 5 smiley faces = 1 new book/freddo/trip to the playground/whatever, rather than a treat every time he does something.
thanks so much girls for your confidence boosting.
I am very proud to say that today DS was wonderful. No complaints when I dressed him in his undies, he told us that nappies are only for bed time. No accidents all day and we spend all day out and about for my birthday too. ALso he told us that dummies are only for bed time and didn't have them all day either! YAY!!
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TT 3 year old
He doesn't do poo in the toilet, he will sit there for ages, several times and do nothing, then cry with a sore tummy and ask for a nappy. So I give him a nappy to go in then clean him up and put undies on again.
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