Being mother to a premmie.

[LysnDan]

Hun I get that too, Jett is tiny!! He'll be 6 months old next week and weighs 4.3kgs! So technically underweight for his adjusted age too..It's not always easy, but when you tell the story say it with a smile, tell them she's your miracle baby and how blessed you are to have her in your arms.. That's what I do..

Also I feel better saying 'adjusted' age rather than 'corrected' If your correcting something it means it was wrong. My baby is not wrong he was just early.. I got this analogy from a wise friend who had 27week twins.. I never say 'corrected age'

Actually, you have a point there will be referring to it as adjusted age from now on.

You're all right. I didn't do anything wrong. My body had developed a serious life threatening disease, which was so close to killing us both. But my miracle baby survived. And so did I.

I shouldn't be afraid to tell the birth story or tell people why she resembles a newborn at 4months old. But I am. It's lke re living it all again. I am still not 'over' the PTSD surrounding the birth of Amelia and the events leading up to it. One minute I was fine, driving DH to the airport, and that same day I had an OB appt, whisked me to local hospital, then off to KEMH at around lunchtime, then she was ripped from my body at 10:43 that same night. Without DH.

How do I summarise that without people asking more questions ?

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[blessedatlast]

Just say "after a very traumatic premature birth we are both lucky to be here" then give Amelia a kiss and start talking to her. Then the stranger can't really ask more questions..

It is awful, and just because they are home now doesn't mean everything is ok. I don't think I'll ever get over the trauma I'll just learn to live with it I guess. You don't owe anyone an explanation.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I can only imagine how hard it is.

But know that my DD was born with an umbilical hernia as well and she was full term. It caused a few issues but it mostly always corrects itself and definitely not your fault!

[Rowellen]

I shouldn't be afraid to tell the birth story or tell people why she resembles a newborn at 4months old.

While you shouldn't be afraid to tell your story, you also shouldn't feel that you need to tell complete strangers. It is none of their business. If you don't feel like talking about it, don't. Just say her adjusted age and leave the rest out. I wouldn't even call it "adjusted age". You shouldn't have to relive your trauma just because someone is a stickybeak. If you want to talk about it, that is fine too. Don't feel guilty.