Today is their EDD and theyre 6 weeks already.Now is pretty much our terrible hour when DS goes down at 7.30 and the girls decide its dinner time
Things are going well Im getting plenty of sleep I just wish it was easier to leave the house.
As promised I've been a bit crap at coming in here regularily but I've just caught up with the thread so I thought I should say Hello and give a bit of an update.
Seth is doing great - he really is. Other than a minor hip issue - which the Paed at the Royal Women's freaked me out about as she advised she thought he needed immediate surgery to fix the problem before he was 3 months corrected - he's doing wonderfully. Chubbing up quite a bit and getting quite long - he's now in 0000 clothing which is a shock to me. Each time I put more clothes away that no longer fit him I'm both sad and happy all at once. I can't believe how much he's grown!
And he's smiling and laughing like the happiest baby on Earth so I really am quite a lucky girl, even despite all the other issues going on in my life at the moment.
However after others took a look at my birth report (the one they gave me when DS was discharged from SCN) they basically freaked out and let me know that not only did DS almost die (which I knew) but I did too. For the past 4 months I had thought DS's early arrival was brought on by stress as I was told - it turns out my placenta had abrupted and when I was bleeding at home like crazy before the ambulance came, I was in serious trouble. Like, really, really bad trouble.
To make matters worse, the fact that my 12 week scan highlighted Low Papp-A should've signalled to the midwife and Drs that were taking care of me that I would have a prem baby. Nope, nothing. And apparently they never should have let me discharge myself 5 hours after giving birth - they didn't even give me an iv and it's on their bloody website in a flowchart to provide info to other medical professionals with advice on how to care for a woman with APH. Basically they chucked the flowchart away in my case and did NOTHING.
Oh - and when I ended up passing out on my bathroom floor for 40 hours 2 days after DS was born it wasn't because of exhaustion caused by the constipation I was dealing with as I had thought. Apparently I had lost so much blood and a piece of the placenta had lodged on top of my cervix causing me to pass out.
So now I'm completely messed up about my pregnancy and birth. I'm angry that they KNEW I'd have a prem baby and no one told me and that they not only put my life at risk but Seth's. Because he came early I had to scrap my plans to return to Canada before the birth, thus causing a huge mess with immigration/housing/legal stuff, etc. I've contacted the hospital and had them send me the form so I can request our hospital records and then I'm taking them immediately to a lawyer. I don't care if I never see a cent from them - but they can't let this happen to someone else. Yes, we were lucky but who in the h wants luck to play such a huge part in something like birth?
Anyway, sorry for the rant. Just wanted to give you the heads up about why things are still quiet on my end - so much stuff for me to process now and I can't get a grip on it yet. I'm really angry and sad whenever I think of it. It's bad enough I've felt guilty as heck this whole time thinking if only I'd coped with the stress of DH leaving than Seth could have avoided 6 weeks in hospital without his Mummy 24/7 but to find out they could have helped to ensure that he stayed in longer and had a better chance at the beginning? It's just wrong. No wonder he was born so darn small.
I'm glad to hear everyone and their babies are doing relatively well, and I'll still be here lurking until I feel like I can speak in here again.
S xo
Last edited by BloominRoses; January 18th, 2010 at 08:07 AM.
Sally - weigh ins can be hard. I have no wonder words of advice for you but know that we are here for you. How did you go at the doctors?
Beema - WTG Nakita & mummy! I hate it with doctors when they just basically confirm everything I have said LOL. I also wish the dolls felt more accurate even though they are correct weight.
BW - I found Caitin's EDD really hard... I have no idea how I will cope towards her first birthday and EDD again this year - time will tell. I hope that the doll is able to bring you some closure. It did for me, I'm one of the mums that needs to remember how small she was. I think Sam is doing beautifully, he is a very happy little boy and very keen to show off his walking abilities!
Sally2 - fingers crossed you get reprive from the hospital runs this year
Heavenly -
Leesa - I agree... it is good to see so many happy, healthy prems.
Nickers - thank you sharing Nixon's story.
Rhyb - due dates are terribly hard. Glad to hear you are getting plenty of sleep.
BR - Glad to hear DS is doing well. Wow that is a lot of information for you to take in. I am at a loss for words.
AFU - DD is doing very well. We went to the ECHN last week with DP who was not at work for the day. DD weighs 6.7kg now (50th %), 62cm long (25th %), and HC is 41cm (25th%). The ECHN said with her responses and progress she is very similar to a FT baby - and that whilst we still can't discount her being prem, she is doing really well. I cried... couldn't help it. It just felt so different to the constant issues with her weight when she was in hospital... the huge fuss they made over a 20gm loss in 2 days etc... to finally be told something good without the "mmm how is she going for corrected age" comments was just such a relief.
ive never really had a problem with the edd days maybe its just me ive kinda been like beore then she was special cos she was here when she wasnt meant to be and she'd get special attention and now shes suposed to be here ppl wont think shes special...prob cos noone makes a big deal of it cos its my 3/4 kids so its like theres another one so it was nice to have the attention though it wasnt nice she was so early
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Due dates are hard, but it does get easier. be nice to yourself, you are doing so well.
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