Today is their EDD and theyre 6 weeks already.Now is pretty much our terrible hour when DS goes down at 7.30 and the girls decide its dinner time
Things are going well Im getting plenty of sleep I just wish it was easier to leave the house.
As promised I've been a bit crap at coming in here regularily but I've just caught up with the thread so I thought I should say Hello and give a bit of an update.
Seth is doing great - he really is. Other than a minor hip issue - which the Paed at the Royal Women's freaked me out about as she advised she thought he needed immediate surgery to fix the problem before he was 3 months corrected - he's doing wonderfully. Chubbing up quite a bit and getting quite long - he's now in 0000 clothing which is a shock to me. Each time I put more clothes away that no longer fit him I'm both sad and happy all at once. I can't believe how much he's grown!
And he's smiling and laughing like the happiest baby on Earth so I really am quite a lucky girl, even despite all the other issues going on in my life at the moment.
However after others took a look at my birth report (the one they gave me when DS was discharged from SCN) they basically freaked out and let me know that not only did DS almost die (which I knew) but I did too. For the past 4 months I had thought DS's early arrival was brought on by stress as I was told - it turns out my placenta had abrupted and when I was bleeding at home like crazy before the ambulance came, I was in serious trouble. Like, really, really bad trouble.
To make matters worse, the fact that my 12 week scan highlighted Low Papp-A should've signalled to the midwife and Drs that were taking care of me that I would have a prem baby. Nope, nothing. And apparently they never should have let me discharge myself 5 hours after giving birth - they didn't even give me an iv and it's on their bloody website in a flowchart to provide info to other medical professionals with advice on how to care for a woman with APH. Basically they chucked the flowchart away in my case and did NOTHING.
Oh - and when I ended up passing out on my bathroom floor for 40 hours 2 days after DS was born it wasn't because of exhaustion caused by the constipation I was dealing with as I had thought. Apparently I had lost so much blood and a piece of the placenta had lodged on top of my cervix causing me to pass out.
So now I'm completely messed up about my pregnancy and birth. I'm angry that they KNEW I'd have a prem baby and no one told me and that they not only put my life at risk but Seth's. Because he came early I had to scrap my plans to return to Canada before the birth, thus causing a huge mess with immigration/housing/legal stuff, etc. I've contacted the hospital and had them send me the form so I can request our hospital records and then I'm taking them immediately to a lawyer. I don't care if I never see a cent from them - but they can't let this happen to someone else. Yes, we were lucky but who in the h wants luck to play such a huge part in something like birth?
Anyway, sorry for the rant. Just wanted to give you the heads up about why things are still quiet on my end - so much stuff for me to process now and I can't get a grip on it yet. I'm really angry and sad whenever I think of it. It's bad enough I've felt guilty as heck this whole time thinking if only I'd coped with the stress of DH leaving than Seth could have avoided 6 weeks in hospital without his Mummy 24/7 but to find out they could have helped to ensure that he stayed in longer and had a better chance at the beginning? It's just wrong. No wonder he was born so darn small.
I'm glad to hear everyone and their babies are doing relatively well, and I'll still be here lurking until I feel like I can speak in here again.
S xo
Last edited by BloominRoses; January 18th, 2010 at 08:07 AM.
Sally - weigh ins can be hard. I have no wonder words of advice for you but know that we are here for you. How did you go at the doctors?
Beema - WTG Nakita & mummy! I hate it with doctors when they just basically confirm everything I have said LOL. I also wish the dolls felt more accurate even though they are correct weight.
BW - I found Caitin's EDD really hard... I have no idea how I will cope towards her first birthday and EDD again this year - time will tell. I hope that the doll is able to bring you some closure. It did for me, I'm one of the mums that needs to remember how small she was. I think Sam is doing beautifully, he is a very happy little boy and very keen to show off his walking abilities!
Sally2 - fingers crossed you get reprive from the hospital runs this year
Heavenly -
Leesa - I agree... it is good to see so many happy, healthy prems.
Nickers - thank you sharing Nixon's story.
Rhyb - due dates are terribly hard. Glad to hear you are getting plenty of sleep.
BR - Glad to hear DS is doing well. Wow that is a lot of information for you to take in. I am at a loss for words.
AFU - DD is doing very well. We went to the ECHN last week with DP who was not at work for the day. DD weighs 6.7kg now (50th %), 62cm long (25th %), and HC is 41cm (25th%). The ECHN said with her responses and progress she is very similar to a FT baby - and that whilst we still can't discount her being prem, she is doing really well. I cried... couldn't help it. It just felt so different to the constant issues with her weight when she was in hospital... the huge fuss they made over a 20gm loss in 2 days etc... to finally be told something good without the "mmm how is she going for corrected age" comments was just such a relief.
ive never really had a problem with the edd days maybe its just me ive kinda been like beore then she was special cos she was here when she wasnt meant to be and she'd get special attention and now shes suposed to be here ppl wont think shes special...prob cos noone makes a big deal of it cos its my 3/4 kids so its like theres another one so it was nice to have the attention though it wasnt nice she was so early
Brendan has been enrolled into a Speech and Language Programme Am kinda excited as it's a group thing. Runs for 7 weeks. Looking forward to getting some new tips
serenity all good too , still havent seen the chn lol but shes now a tight squeeze for 00000 legless out fits and when this pack of newborn nappies finish she will be moving up a size so i know shes growing, she also loves listening and music an singing and the breeze in her hair
Oh BR I am astounded to read how you were treated, you have me in tears, no one should be treated like that I hope that things work out for you, I am just in shock to read what happened, you are an amazing woman and mother and Seth would be so very proud of you and what you have done.
In time your own time can come back in and say hi.
Wow TK Caitin is doing really well, you must be so proud
Ooohhh I hope it goes really Well Sal and the Brendan can really move forwards
Serenity sounds like she is doing beautifully HM4
Thankyou all for sharing your stories, it was amazing to hear how all these precious prems came into the world
AFus: DD has been sick again and ended up in hospital with and NGT as she hadn't anything to eat or drink for a couple of days and had temps over 39 degrees and no matter what we tried we couldn't get any fluids or pain meds into her. She is home now and has since come out in a rash. The Dr's think that it may have been to do with her 18 month chicken pox vaccination, some kind of viral infection. Apparently the rashes come out at the end of it. We had dry nappies until this morning (which only had a tiny bit in it, but she decided to drink some milk this morning and she had a bit more this afternoon, so enough to keep her at home. She isn't eating very much and mostly just plays with the food but that will come when she feels better. She lost 800grams, but that will come back in time.
She is now walking by herself, she started the day before she got sick, but she hasn't done it since, but I am sure she will in a few more days
Hi Everyone, I have lurked this thread from time to time over the last 6 months (gee that's gone fast) and have felt a bit silly for thinking of posting in here. Let me know if you think it isn't suitable, I'll understand.
A brief story of us:
We had no idea when our conception date was and due to irregular periods. Our local doctor decided that our due date would be 25th August, 2009.
DD was transverse oblique and I had a low lying placenta. I went into labour on the 2nd of August and was given drugs to stop the labour which only worked on the 3rd and final attempt and DD was born via c/s on the 3rd August, 2009 at 36w6d. So technically she was only 1 day from being a FT baby. She was rushed off to NSCN due to breathing difficulties, and failure to keep body temp. It was 8 long hours before I got to meet her which then was only for 10mins. She was almost 24hrs old before I saw her again. It became evident quite quickly that she wasn't anywhere near a FT baby with her actions. She was 2.5kg 48cm long and 33cm HC. She had monitors and was under heat lamps in an open cot. It felt like a long road, and we were told she looked like she would be here until her due date. I longed to hold her, feed her and bond. I too struggled being on the maternity ward without my baby. Especially since for the first few days my room was the first beside the nursery. But she made a quick turn around and ended up being discharged to our room on the 11th night and out of hospital on the 12th.
We had many issues with feeding and expressed by hand for the liquid gold to be given via NGT She had formula top ups eventually used bottles at some points She had her NGT removed 10th morning and we fully Breastfed that day. Sorry this is a bit of a ramble and all over the shop, I'm trying to condense the story and am realising that I still haven't come to terms with everything that happened as I've not really spoken to anyone about it all.
DD is going well now, feeds great. Has reflux, colic, had torticollis which has been fixed and still has plagiocephaly. She also has a milk protein allergy. She has quite a few strawberry birthmarks which apparently are common in female prem bubs.
It is only now that I'm starting to see developmentally in some areas she is going great guns but sometimes I feel like she is falling behind - the cons of a going to a regular mothers group.
On Thursday we had MCHN visit and she was 6months 1 day. 6.5kg, 65cm long, and 42.5cm HC.
This has turned out to be a long post sorry.
Last edited by Ellee05; February 6th, 2010 at 11:03 PM.
: clarify
Hello Ellee, welcome to the premmie group It sounds like you DD is going really well!!! She's bigger than Tristan hehe, he was 5.99kg at 7m (born 3090 at 34+3) How is she going for development?
*ETA* forgot to update Tristan's exciting news!! He's starting to crawl, wouldn't call him crawling just yet, but oh so close! He is also trying to sit now as well
Hi everyone . I forgot about this thread! It's probably a good idea for me to join in now, as it looks highly likely that we'll be having another prem. DS was 35 weeks, and although had been borderline IUGR, was healthy enough to come home with us. Not that we were without any premmie-related dramas, but we were very lucky that we could take him home.
This bubba (as many of you know) is significantly IUGR, so they think will need to be delivered early (or I may go into prem labour again). Although, I'm feeling very positive over the last few days, and it seems that my tummy has had a growth spurt, so I'm hoping that means bub has . Another u/s and Ob appt tomorrow, so we'll have a better idea then where we're at. With any luck this bub will hardly be prem at all!!!!
Looking forward to getting to know you all, and catching up on your stories. I'd better head off and call the hospital now to see if they're ready yet to do our CTG
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Due dates are hard, but it does get easier. be nice to yourself, you are doing so well.
Am kinda excited as it's a group thing. Runs for 7 weeks. Looking forward to getting some new tips
I hope that things work out for you, I am just in shock to read what happened, you are an amazing woman and mother and Seth would be so very proud of you and what you have done.
sorry.
. Another u/s and Ob appt tomorrow, so we'll have a better idea then where we're at. With any luck this bub will hardly be prem at all!!!!
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