As promised I've been a bit crap at coming in here regularily but I've just caught up with the thread so I thought I should say Hello and give a bit of an update.
Seth is doing great - he really is. Other than a minor hip issue - which the Paed at the Royal Women's freaked me out about as she advised she thought he needed immediate surgery to fix the problem before he was 3 months corrected - he's doing wonderfully. Chubbing up quite a bit and getting quite long - he's now in 0000 clothing which is a shock to me. Each time I put more clothes away that no longer fit him I'm both sad and happy all at once. I can't believe how much he's grown!
And he's smiling and laughing like the happiest baby on Earth so I really am quite a lucky girl, even despite all the other issues going on in my life at the moment.
However after others took a look at my birth report (the one they gave me when DS was discharged from SCN) they basically freaked out and let me know that not only did DS almost die (which I knew) but I did too. For the past 4 months I had thought DS's early arrival was brought on by stress as I was told - it turns out my placenta had abrupted and when I was bleeding at home like crazy before the ambulance came, I was in serious trouble. Like, really, really bad trouble.
To make matters worse, the fact that my 12 week scan highlighted Low Papp-A should've signalled to the midwife and Drs that were taking care of me that I would have a prem baby. Nope, nothing. And apparently they never should have let me discharge myself 5 hours after giving birth - they didn't even give me an iv and it's on their bloody website in a flowchart to provide info to other medical professionals with advice on how to care for a woman with APH. Basically they chucked the flowchart away in my case and did NOTHING.
Oh - and when I ended up passing out on my bathroom floor for 40 hours 2 days after DS was born it wasn't because of exhaustion caused by the constipation I was dealing with as I had thought. Apparently I had lost so much blood and a piece of the placenta had lodged on top of my cervix causing me to pass out.
So now I'm completely messed up about my pregnancy and birth. I'm angry that they KNEW I'd have a prem baby and no one told me and that they not only put my life at risk but Seth's. Because he came early I had to scrap my plans to return to Canada before the birth, thus causing a huge mess with immigration/housing/legal stuff, etc. I've contacted the hospital and had them send me the form so I can request our hospital records and then I'm taking them immediately to a lawyer. I don't care if I never see a cent from them - but they can't let this happen to someone else. Yes, we were lucky but who in the h wants luck to play such a huge part in something like birth?
Anyway, sorry for the rant. Just wanted to give you the heads up about why things are still quiet on my end - so much stuff for me to process now and I can't get a grip on it yet. I'm really angry and sad whenever I think of it. It's bad enough I've felt guilty as heck this whole time thinking if only I'd coped with the stress of DH leaving than Seth could have avoided 6 weeks in hospital without his Mummy 24/7 but to find out they could have helped to ensure that he stayed in longer and had a better chance at the beginning? It's just wrong. No wonder he was born so darn small.
I'm glad to hear everyone and their babies are doing relatively well, and I'll still be here lurking until I feel like I can speak in here again.
S xo
Last edited by BloominRoses; January 18th, 2010 at 08:07 AM.
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