Thanks for all your replys guys its all been so usefull

so finally decided that we would like to start off with bubs in our room and see how that goes , as we can always move her into her room if we feel ok with it.

i told my mum and guess what lol, i got the whole 'i dont think u should do that' 'you should put her in her own room from the start' etc etc

oh god lol