How about a homemade "chequebook" of vouchers each good for 2 hours of your time? They can be spent on baby-sitting, housework, cooking or coffee&debrief time, so whatever mum needs she can call on you? You could make them all the same or get creative and make specific vouchers (i.e. a pot-shaped/casserole dish shaped one good for an evening meal, a dummy-shaped one good for 2 hours babysitting, a coffeecup shaped one good for 2 hours coffee and vent when things are tough, a dustpan-shaped one good for housework). Make sure you call her after the birth and make sure she uses them!

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