kimbaz: I am mainly worried about how DH is going to react to the news if am. So what are choces I have. dont tell him until after 3-4 months? Make him go and get snip? I'm not really sure...
WOW they are close? How did your body handle having baby back to back? Was it harder for you to lose both of the tubby tummy after DD2 was born?
My DR tells me I'm fertile too, he doesn't know of another woman he has treated before to get pregnant 3 times in one year. Not that he could tell me anyway with privacy and all.
I didn't cope very well when DS#2 was born. My DH is a farmer, and away all the time. So am on my own wragling 3 children. DS#1 is full on at the moment. I know he is only trying to help but hurts more than anything. DD is just a wonderful big help now. She wasn't when DS#1 was born. And now they fight like cats and dogs.
DH doesn't beleive in DC. But I think it is good for them to get out and play with other kids. He only has a sister. Me I grew up with 3 silbings, hence why I wanted 4 children. And beside he says why should they go when I am at home. My fmaily arn't her in Tassie, yet all his family live within 15km of us and only DH nan (kids great-grandma) comes and helps me out.
Anyway now I am just rambling... Do you know if there is a group on here for woman having babies back to back?? Also how does a woman get fix... just in case DH doesn't get fixed before next baby is born.
Last edited by sarah_dobbo2; July 28th, 2008 at 08:55 AM.
Sarah to be honest if he loves you enough he will except another baby. As you said, it takes 2 to make a baby. You thought you were doing the right thing, you were taking precautions. Not everything is 100% effeective (unless you dont have sex...thats your best protection). Accidents happen. In time im sure he will adjust to the idea (if you are preg that is).
Theres a lady on here whos partner never wanted anymore kids...and she fell preg....im sure things are all ok now though!
My body coped well. As for the tummy...well yeah....im heading into #3 we a tummy still that should have gone...but nope! Good thing though, my body knew exactly what to do come labour 2nd time round and didnt muck me over!!
For a women to get fixed they tie (or cut im not sure) your tubes. Not to sure on the procedure or on the males side either. I think you best bet is to talk to your local GP and see what he thinks and help with what measures to take. I dont like the idea of taking away my chance to have further kids....but its hard when i always want more!!
Im a firmer believer in day care and how it changes my kids social and there interaction skills. I have 2 very different kids since they started. Chelsea has gone since 5 months old and Jasmine since 8 months old.
Not sure on groups....perhaps ask your local GP or health centre, or yoru CHN...maybe she knows of some great groups for bak to back babies....even getting out and making new friends might help.
Theres a few Tassie people on here....post a thread in the Tas thread and see how you go.
Hi Sarah,
I had my two 14 months apart the same week I stopped taking mini-pill, (I was BF too - DS1 was 5 months) but I did not have the pressure of DP not wanting any more kids. He wants as many as I'll have so it's basically up to me. I did feel a little isolated when they were growing up because I didn't drive and my bff and I had stopped talking but I coped until I found support with playgroups. I didn't have trouble with my body returning back to pre-pregnancy weight. I do still have a little bit of lose skin from stretch -marks but I worked hard and ate healthy which also helped my emotional health.
I think you should discuss it with DH and find some support in your area so that you don't feel so isolated. There is nothing worse than feeling overwhelmed, under appreciated and isolated when trying to raise kids so try and look after your mental health first and then the rest will fall into place. I don't know if it affects BF but you could look into alternate methods of contraception such as the Marina device. You definitely need to share with someone near you that you are not coping as well as you should so that they can help you (whether it's hubby or a mother's group, family etc).
I hope this place can be a source of support for you as well.
Good luck!
My two are 12 months apart too. I was breastfeeding but not on the mini pill, and we had only DTD three times. To answer the questions you asked of Kimbaz, I found the pregnancy incredibly difficult as you know from our belly buddy group. My body just wasn't sufficiently recovered and re-energised after a crappy pregnancy with DD#1. Now that I have the two I am finding it very difficult most of the time but every now and then I seem to have an easier day - probably comes along just when I reach the point of looking for a cliff to drive off. My mum is helping me out a huge amount and TBH if she wasn't I'm not sure that I wouldn't have full blown PND.
I only put on 3.5kgs with DD#2 so getting back to pre-pregnancy weight wasn't a problem for me, but there's definitely nothing toned about my body!
I wasn't in the same position as you with a DH who didn't want anymore but more than I didn't want our second baby yet so I was very negative about the pregnancy for most of the time. I think for your own sake you need to test and speak to your DH asap. Nothing worse than worrying about things - we tend to always think the worst!
Quick update, took test (10am) and SNAP i'm NOT pregnant... THANK GOD...
Will tell Dh to go and talk to DR about getting snip. However if he hasn't done it until when Wyatt is 8-10months old tuff luck and I no doubt we'll be fine to fall pregnant than.
Am so realived, the thoughts have been racing through my head of having to buy a new car, only update ours 2 years ago. Along with DH stressing about buying or looking for bigger house, as this is only 3bedroom house. First house is never a forever house, it was something we could affort to buy at the time.
Am copping fine now, it was only when Wyatt was first born, and DS#1 wanted to play with him like a toy. Every morning I write myself a list of things I would like to get done before 10am. If I don't get them done then they go on tomorrow list.
Thanks all for you words of advice. I really dont know how you all cope with them all so close together but it all gets easier.
WEll that is my little huffalump waking up just thought I would update all.
Lulu: That was my main concern. I would like to enjoy Wyatt before even thinking about another one. Thoughts were running though my head, of Wyatt was going to get pushed aside to make way for new baby, when he still baby himself. I would like to have him in day nickers before I give birth to another baby. I think that would be bad, doing a newborn and toddler at the same time.
Anyway how is every thine going with your little girl? Wasn't she the one in our belly group who broke her leg?
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