My two are 12 months apart too. I was breastfeeding but not on the mini pill, and we had only DTD three times. To answer the questions you asked of Kimbaz, I found the pregnancy incredibly difficult as you know from our belly buddy group. My body just wasn't sufficiently recovered and re-energised after a crappy pregnancy with DD#1. Now that I have the two I am finding it very difficult most of the time but every now and then I seem to have an easier day - probably comes along just when I reach the point of looking for a cliff to drive off. My mum is helping me out a huge amount and TBH if she wasn't I'm not sure that I wouldn't have full blown PND.

I only put on 3.5kgs with DD#2 so getting back to pre-pregnancy weight wasn't a problem for me, but there's definitely nothing toned about my body!

I wasn't in the same position as you with a DH who didn't want anymore but more than I didn't want our second baby yet so I was very negative about the pregnancy for most of the time. I think for your own sake you need to test and speak to your DH asap. Nothing worse than worrying about things - we tend to always think the worst!