Parenting after Loss or Miscarriage ~ February 2011

[forshelby]

Oh Mildez.... how awful for your sister, and your poor nephew. I don't know what else to say......... be strong little guy.

[luna moth]

Mildez... how stressful for all of you. I hope the little guy pulls through OK, I really do!

BW - great news on the payrise! And 2.5kg down is an excellent effort, crippled or not!

We just got a new washing machine. Again. Our second in as many months, and the first one we have ever paid for. The old one just wasn't standing up to the cloth nappies!

[Tegam]

Sorry guys on the run but...

Reet only just saw your message beck now! Be proud you are loving your mothering time

Mildez...OMG your poor DN and sister! Far out i hope J is just fighting her illness! about always being right...i think its the nurse in us !

Audax: YAY on washing machine. i love mine, lucky as i have to spend so much time with it


DD1 7yrs has glandular fever The other three probably have it too but im not blood testin them to confirm. There is nothing i can do except panadol and rest for two weeks. And keep them away from other kids for a week! Fun and games at this house

[Mildez]

My nephew is making a great recovery. 2days ago they were not sure if he was going to make it but his going really good now. His even been a naughty little boy so must be feeling alot better. They said he needs tests for the next 12months to monitor his kidney damage. His still at randwick or however I spell it. Its surprising how fast kids crash when there sick but then they pick up so quickly also. Thank Heavens for that. Little Miss J is going fabulous. Hardly coughed at all today although still wheezing alittle.

Tegam sounds like fun fun in your house NOT. I hope the kids recover quickly from it. I don't know much about GF.

Audax hope your new washer is a good one. We recently sold our upright in favour of a TWIN TUB. Very old fashioned. Nope just need a washer that you can recycle the water as we are moving to our farm soon and only have rain water so very important to use so have to conserve every drop.

[Laney]

Hi ladies! I have been having a hard time keeping up to date on this thread. I am sorry. I think things are going to calm down at my house for a little while. At least i hope they do.

I had an ultrasound last week and there is definitely another baby in there Life is about it get a little more interesting.

[butterfly_warrior]

Congratulations, Laney!

Mildez, good to hear your nephew is improving.

Here - teeth suck. 'nuff said.

BW

[luna moth]

OMG Laney! I cannot imagine! Eeeeeeeeeeep! Congratulations!!! And fingers crossed for you.

We are going through a stage of screaming breast refusal. It's horrible. At the same time, though, solids are on the up, so I know she's getting nutrition. I think I need to cut the night feeds back to get the day feeds happening again. Which is hard work. And I'm afraid of hard work.

[butterfly_warrior]

Hard work is scary - but usually worthwhile, Audax. I wish I had some helpful advice to offer, but my boobs are broken!

BW

[KitFaerie]

Laney: Massive congratulations! Woo!

BW: Oh teeth really do suck! I got an amber teething necklace and it seemed to help. Around the time the teeth showed up we had major wakefulness and crankiness, it's hard to know what can be attributed to teeth and what was just being 4.5 months old! I guess your Sam can tell you when his teeth hurt!

Audax: I hate breast refusal So hard not to take it personally! I try to remember that the relationship Sammy has with the girls doesn't affect how he feels about me. At least you know she's eating, it's still hard to take though. Maybe try feeding in an unusual place? I used to take Sammy outside, throw a blanket on the ground and feed lying down, he'd be watching the trees and I'd scoot in close and he'd attach without realising it I think!

Tegam: Ack, you must be moving LOTS at the moment! Hope they get well quickly!

Mildez: Phew! Both for your nephew and your little girl. Hope the recovery continues well xo

AFM, well we had an interesting day yesterday, totally normal morning, then my friend came to visit and Sammy was fine, but then he screamed when I went to put him down for his nap, had to take him for a walk outside to calm him down! Then he woke screaming after 20 minutes, tried to get him back to sleep, had to walk around the yard again and he was still sobbing occasionally, managed to feed him to sleep and he slept my lap for 3 1/2 hours, with random waking and crying breaks. My friend is 18 weeks pregnant, so I think she was a little scared! When Sammy finally woke up properly I was playing with him and he was able to sit by himself for a bit, and had perfected his raspberry blowing. I hope every new thing he learns isn't accompanied by screaming and sleeping! Breaks my heart when he cries Love is a battlefield!

[butterfly_warrior]

Sam wore an amber necklace for a long time, and we've never had too many issues with teething until now. He just up and refused to wear it a few months back so the two year old molars are coming through without the amber. I guess we're doing ok. His first set of molars were all four together and one that kept going back up - it cut three times before it finally stayed through. The two year old molars are at least coming through one at a time. But the little sod just chewed holes in three brand new dummies. Grrrr! He's not really able to tell us when something hurts - but I do find him often holding the side of his face.

[forshelby]

It's quiet in here... where is everyone?

A little update from me, I've started making hand woven slings. Super cute!

[butterfly_warrior]

We've been incredibly busy and Sam is unbelievably unsettled and grumpy - all sorts of issues trying to get him to eat, sleep, everything. Certainly a Mr CrankyPants right now.

BW

[forshelby]

oh bugger, I hope things improve quickly!

[butterfly_warrior]

Not much better, unfortunately. I'm taking him to Newcastle to spend some time with my parents. Hoping that a different environment and some back up might help us fix the behavioural issues while giving DH a break. Neither of us are coping at the moment and it's the only thing I can think to do!

BW

[luna moth]

A little update from me, I've started making hand woven slings. Super cute!

OMG awesome! How do you make them?

We have been sick. All two both of us with a cold. DH with gut issues My mum is staying though, so that's helpful.

We're househunting. It is sooooo hard, and annoying, and unfair to this little girl who is always getting dragged out and about.

[angelfish]

Hi all i am so sorry i thought that i could keep up but Honor who just turned six months today was very sick for a couple of days high fevers and not drinking almost landed her in the er. I will try to keep up but yes i have been reading

[luna moth]

Blergh, angel, sickness is awful.

We are battling some hardcore constipation here, and I'm starting to wonder if it's the avocado that does it? Don't know what else it could be, in a little girl whose favourite foods are lentils and broccoli...

In other news, SIL's birth of #2 draws closer, and it makes me so nervous. I am still struggling with it, but I'm sure once baby's out I'll be a bit better. Or not. Who knows? Lucky I have you guys to whinge to...

[KitFaerie]

Angel: Eep! Hope Honor's feeling better now! It sounds scary

Audax: How went/goes the house hunting? Bummer for constipation (teehee), maybe try kiwi fruit with the skin on? Sammy started solids last week, so I'm a whole new world of poop. So far zucchini and avocado are favourites, with apple up there as well (only pink lady though, not granny smith or red delicious!) With the whole baby thing, I think it does get easier once the baby's arrived, my SIL just had her 4th child - she gave him the most ridiculous name ever, so pity for the child has overshadowed every other emotion.

Butterfly: How are things your end my dear?

Forshelby: Slings sound awesome! I wish I could make stuff like that, but alas my creativity was stretched by stuffing a sock with cellophane for Sammy to play with.

AFM: Things are lovely Sammy's sleep went through a rough patch, but we've come out the other side, until the next time anyway! He is soo much fun, starting to see this funny, cheeky, determined little boy in the baby. Seeing him so happy is really helping me to keep going with my parenting choices, I've had some rather interesting/heated discussions with some family members and a mother's group leader about how often I have him on me (I like to give him some sling time each day, that way he can choose whether to interact or just chill out and watch) and how often I feed him (on demand) and how he's never left to cry, and how he's ''still'' in our room. I read parenting by heart by Pinky McKay and that really crystallised things for me as well.