Parenting After Miscarriage or Loss - February 2010

[JCE0810]

Hey Ladies,

Can i share some more good news with you all?

My HCG levels from yesterday's blood test were 72,000 (47,000 on Monday)

Freya: so sorry to hear Stellan is sick, hope he is better soon

Mako: i'm glad your appointment went ok

Kelly: BIG

Hello to everyone else

Sorry for not writing anymore im just a little nervous and excited that my HCG levels have risen

[Willow]

Bonham - Are you feeling a bit more confident now?? It's hard I know, the first few weeks are so, so hard. Hang in there, you're doing well

Kelly - It's such a tough time, I remember all too well how it feels. That 12 months TTC after our loss was pretty much the darkest time in my life. Unfortunately, I wasn't so great at putting on a brave face Just remember to keep talking to us, we all truly understand how this feels and want to help you through it

MM - Hope your dad is sorted and home again soon. How far from Sydney do they live?

Freya- Hope Stellan is on the mend. Apart from Spring's little man, I've never heard of a little one like him getting it?? My brother used to have it chronically as a kid and teenager and even now as an adult gets it about once a year. We grew up in that phase when drs pretty much refused to remove tonsils. Anyhoo, am sure you won't have to worry about any of that, that was a bit of a tangent...sorry! LOL.

Mako - You have to go all the way to Kogarah for a blood test??!! Did you ask him if you can have it done somewhere closer to home? That's what I used to do.

I have an appt on Monday, but I may be able to change it if everyone else can make it.

BBL, kids doing my head in and DH going to training (again) tonight.

[mako]

Willow yeah I did ask him if I could have the test done closer to home but Kogara is the only place that does this particular test(NK Cells).
Whats your DH training for?
Hope the kids are all settled now..Sage was driving me bonkers this arv too..I put it down to the heat though. I hope tomorrow is a better day for all.
What time is your appt on Monday? Is it close to your place?

Jo WOOHOO on the great results. I hope you're feeling a little more confident now

[Freya]

So glad you got good results Jo!

Mako - unfortunately I wont be around on Monday otherwise I would have been keen to catch up; Kogarah isnt far from me!

Just watched the movie Julie & Julia, was funny. I should go crawl into bed now while Stell is still asleep and hope he gives me a few hours at a time tonight.

[kellym]

Well... AF arrived with a vengence this morning... as I knew it would. I'm a little surprised at how upset I've been and hope that I can turn it around pretty quickly. DH doesn't really get it and I can't help but obsess over next month and the fact that it looks like he'll be away right when I ovulate. Awesome. I'll keep praying though.. my cycle isn't very reliable and I have NO idea when I do O. Falling pg hasn't been our problem in the past though, so DH doesn't understand why I'm obsessing over it. Anyway what will be will be... I just want the next month to be over quickly.. thankfully we will have visitors over this time next week and then my Mum is here on 1 March... so hopefully that will keep us busy.

Sorry again for the selfish post, I just feel like absolutely crap this morning.. and to add to that I'm really dizzy for some reason.. probably due to AF.

Kel xx

[Willow]

Willow yeah I did ask him if I could have the test done closer to home but Kogara is the only place that does this particular test(NK Cells).

Yeah, I realised that last night. He's not doing the biopsy? I can't remember the details of those tests although one of my friends had them done too (the one I told you about before, not the one that was here on the w/end). Sorry if I'm asking too many questions

Yeah, my appt is close to home.

DH is on a health kick, he is doing kick boxing training 3 nights a week. I am proud of him for getting fit and he has dropped about 15kg already but it's hard on me being here on my own with the kids so much.

Things are terrible here atm. DH and I are at each other's throats because we are just so tired. He told me this morning he wants me to take D to sleep school I don't want to go back there. I just want to fix this on my own and I don't know how to I can't understand why things have gotten so bad, he was such a great sleeper.

Kelly - Sorry, I missed your post before. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, I truly remember what it's like I am hoping next month will bring some wonderful news

[Willow]

Double post

[mako]

BW. I hope you have a lovely day.

Willow and Freya Don't worry about Monday. Its most likely going to be too hard anyway. I thought about it more last night and by the time I actually get the test done who knows what time it'll be.

I explained as much as I could to DH last night about how everything went and he didn't say anything. I just don't get it Anyway he knows that I need to have lots of tests done to try and work out what caused my DVT when I was 16 and he's looking into the issues I had when I had DS and why he was early and why the placenta didn't work as well as it should have etc etc. He also wants me to take Metformin after my B.T on Monday but he's prescribed more than what my specialist up here has so I'll see how I handle it. He said to take 1 a day for a week and then 2 a day the following week and then try and take 3 a day after that. We'll see how it all goes. I only had to take 1 a day last time but anyway.

I hope everyone has a great weekend and lovely Valentines Day tomorrow.

[nicjay]

Mako, we found out about Dad's cancer late last year. Then he had 2 lots of surgery fairly quicky to get rid of it - they both went well in terms of getting it all but he had complications - pneumonia and the blood clot. And now he's on the home stretch with the radiotherapy this is just another one. Its so frustrating! We just want him to get through it and put in behind him KWIM? Willow, they live in Lake Macquarie - so too far away to travel down every day unfortunately They are staying in a centre for cancer patients near the hospital and coming home on weekends, but not this one of course.

Anyway.....

Kel -

Freya - Hope Stellan is feeling better soon

Mako - Glad you have a new plan, sounds promising to me! GL with the BT

Willow - know how you feel unfortunately with the no sleep, hoping things improve soon.

Jo - Yay for a great result, how exciting!

BW - Happy birthday!

Had better run anyway, DD1 has swimming shortly and I'm hoping to get a hair colour this arvo, E permitting! Have a nice weekend everyone

[Janie]

Mako, . I'm really glad you've seen Dr S though, and I hope his tests shed some light on your situation, and bring a new little bubba into your arms.

[Willow]

Sorry for being such a whinger this morning, I know there are more important things going on than my lack of sleep.

MM - hope you get that hair colour! I'm about to escape for a few hours myself. For the sake of sanity!!

[Janie]

Willow, lack of sleep is TORTUROUS, particularly when it leads to arguments . I hope some time out does you the world of good

[Laney]

jlk, Great to hear that your appt. went well and that your bub will be watched closely. Did your doctor talk to you about taking clexane after they found issues with your placenta?

Kel, sorry to hear about Af.

Bonham, yay for rising HCG's! When is your ultrasound?

Mako, I hope that you get an answer after all of your tests.

Willow, I hope your sleep situation works itself out soon.

[Bun]

Willow - sweetie, I remember the sleep deprivation leading to arguments between DH and I when DD was younger and hardly slept at all. It is so hard to deal with, especially if you have different ideas about how to tackle it. DH and I are still the same regarding DD's sleep! Wow on DH's weight loss, that's a fantastic effort, but it must be hard to be on your own so often. My DH does martial arts training, often in the evenings, and although I think it's great that he does it, I also find it really hard sometimes.

kelly - sorry about AF hun, I hope it gets better soon.

BW - happy birthday my birthday buddy!

Jo - I am so pleased to hear about your HCG levels, that is fantastic news!!

mako - glad to hear about your appointment. How do you feel about things now?

I am a bit of a sad panda today. I am not really sure why, I think maybe it is just that it has all been too much for me lately. A shocking birth, bad recovery, a month of house guests who at times are helpful and at other times really aren't, a tantruming toddler, and today is my birthday although it doesn't feel like it! We were woken by DD who Mum and Dad let into our room first thing (they were getting her up this morning) but she came in right when we had just gotten DS to sleep and were drifting off ourselves, plus DS had been up and down since 4am, and the day hasn't really improved since then. DD is really pushing the boundaries atm - we have had a month of rellies spoiling her and she has become a nightmare if she doesn't get her own way. Mum and Dad leave tomorrow and we have no more guests after that. In a way I am glad to be on my own at last and at the same time I am terrified of how difficult it may be cope with both kids with no help! Plus I am sure I will have a nightmare few days with DD while I get her back into routine and used to the way I run things - no getting her own way all the time, and no constant attention either. It could be interesting... Anyway, must go as Mum and I are going shopping for my birthday pressie. Hopefully it will cheer me up some!

[Spring Angel]

Bun: gorgeous. Sorry to hear you're having a tough day. Try not to stress too much about DD. O has been testing the boundaries also. Having a new sibling is such an change for them that it will take a while to adjust. Having so many house guest is lovely but also exhausting. I'm sure one their gone things will settle.

BW: Happy birthday to you too hope you have a special day.

Willow: lack of sleep is very taxing on a relationship. I really hope D settles back into a good sleep routine soon. Congrats to DH on the health kick.

Mako: I'm glad the appointment went well and I'm hoping the results provide some answers.

Bonham: whoo hoo those numbers ae awesome!

JLK: so glad to hear bub is doing well. Try not to worry too much about the movement, bub will be kicking you in the guts before long.

Janie: so happy to see your ticker plodding along. Here's to 34weeks and beyond.

Kelly: so sorry about AF Hun. I'm worried about you, I hope you're doing ok . Is there anything I can do to help you through?

Laney: how are you and the adorable DS going?

Freya: tonsillitis sucks! I hope ds is better soon and this is a one off.

Meg: enjoy getting you hair done, I got my done last w'end.

Bek: how you doing babe? DD's sleep issues could be the result of the toothie peg.

Well we are well. DS doesn't seem to be stretching his nightime feeds yet which I know us to be expected. Just hoping he beats his brothers record of not sleeping through until 12 mths. I've been really engorged of late, ended up expressing off 100mls yesterday just for comfort. I'm hoping to loose some more kgs this week but I don't think it rill be much. Off for a walk to the park this arvo to get out snd get some exercise then off to the beach fit a wslk in the morning. But what I'd give for fish and chips for dinner (lol )

Spring xx

[LisaL]

hi ladies,

Hugs to all

Bun / BW - HAPPY BDAY LADIES - hope your both having a fab day

Rach - sorry honey about your mums news, hope the prognosis is better than you expect xx

Freya - Miss A had acute tonsilities around the same age, she recovered well and *touch wood* hasnt had it since!

Kelly - sweety I found ttc after my loss extremely difficult and now when i think back, i think i was going through depression. Dont be too hard on yourself, and its great that you are in here expressing your feelings

Jo - great news sweety!

Janie - knew you would make it to 32 - now onto 34 and beyond. Its ok not to post persies, you need our support now so let us do just that.

Mako - GL on Monday sweety, hope you get some answers.

AFM - had a bday party this morning, gotta get miss a ready for a sleepover at my mums, we have another adult bday tonight..im so tired i feel like im going to pop this little bubba out at any time!

Lis xx

[Janie]

Hang in there another couple of weeks yet Lisa . Been thinking of you, not long to go now! Hope you're feeling organised after all your nesting

[Bun]

Birth story now up. Just a warning if you are up to reading it - it is very very long!!!