Parenting After Miscarriage or Loss - January 2010

[BekZ]

I am around but not in a good headspace and not knowing what to say to all of you that are having such a rough time

Yep I feel the same way atm hun. I can't explain what is happening to me but I am on the verge of tears most days lately.

Mako - I am giving FB a big miss lately because I find myself getting angry with my SIL and her perfect life and stupid comments. I really can't be bothered atm.

Just letting everyone know that I am thinking of you all and praying like crazy that the universe smiles nicely on our little thread.

[Lee]

Hi my lovelies...........

Dropping in to have a check on you all - and feel the same way as Bek and Willow - but at least we know we are all still here, even if no valuable words of wisdom are forthcoming, it doesn't matter really.

Michelle, Janie, Kelly, Mako - how are you girls? Been thinking of you, hugs xoxoxo

Bek - I know what you mean about FB - I really love some things about it - i.e. it helps me keep in touch with very special people in my life - but it also gives me the irrits, do I really want to know that my brother (gay bro) woke up with bruises in out of the way places ... probably not!

Having said that - I just posted some recent pictures of my wee Flynn and all my 4 babies at Christmas time - I don't have you all in my "Friends" - if you want to check out my little clan, happy for you to pm me.

Hope you are all finding some peace over the weekend. I've actually caught up on some sleep - my god that helps - I have been teary and emotional for what seems an eternity, but sleep is such an imortant mood lifter.

Bun - are you home yet with that gorgeous little man - and when will we see some piccies?

Love to all,

Lee xoxo

[~Jayne~]

LEE _ I can't find you on facebook! I know we were 'friends' but now you are gone? :-(

BEK _ oh no Chook, what's happening? I hate hearing you are close to tears all the time? Do you feel like telling me what's happening? I'm always hear to listen?

Had a great time at the movies today, then took the girls to a salon to have their toe nails painted - think I may have started something with that one. Oh well!

[Laney]

Hi Ladies

I have been following this thread for a while now. I really haven't known what to say to everyone that has been having such a difficult time. I only know a couple of people in here from previous forums. I just wanted to send out a really big

Lee- i am going to PM you. I would love to see some pictures of your growing family.

[JCE0810]

Hey ladies sorry i'm just lurking at the moment, like a few others i also dont know what to say

but wanting to send lots of &

[Freya]

ugh Ds1 has the dreaded chicken pox *sigh*

[Michelle71]

Oh yay Freya That will be fun - NOT!!

Dad is back together. Heading back home but will be back next week for follow up and then frequently over the next few weeks. I am tired but doing ok. Off to see the endocrinologist today and meet the midwife so wooo hoooo!! for a very big positive.

Big hugs to everyone I think it must be January

[butterfly_warrior]

Does anyone know anything about side effects to the 12 month vaccinations? I had them done with the GP rather than the council this time and they didn't give me the information leaflets like the council does... And now I'm trying to figure out what's turned my normally tending to be slightly constipated little boy into a poop machine and whether I'm facing getting sick as well. The mtx hit me hard this weekend and I'm already feeling somewhat under the weather - I don't need to be catching stuff from Sam right now!

Ok... enough of my freaking out. Now that Sam's asleep I need to get back to disinfecting the bathroom and cleaning the carpet properly...

I really hope things start looking up in here real soon!

BW

[mako]

Freya Lucky you NOT!!!!

BW I can't remember Sage getting sick from his 12 month needles (or any for that fact). I hope Sam is better soon and hope you are ok too. How did you go with all the daycare forms etc? When does Sam start?

Michelle I hope you have a good day meeting your midwife I'm so pleased your dad is on the mend too. How did the breaking of the news go? I hope it went much better than you expected

Janie How are you going hun? Did you tell your mum what's going on?

Willow Thanks for your text babe. I hope you are ok and please don't down play your little worries either, but please know we are all here for you always

Rach How's everything going with you? You haven't been in for a while and even though I only saw you last Wednesday I've been wondering how Evangeline and you are going with the feeding?

Lee,Jayne,Deb,Laney,Lisa,Bun and anyone I've missed

[Michelle71]

Mako - Dad already knew, Mum mentioned nothing But I am not surprised - there was a significant distraction. Unfortunately / fortunately family have found out we are pregnant (not that I was hiding it or keeping it a secret after Christmas - I just hadn't told people) and I am getting congratulations which is difficult. I feel obliged to say thank you but with a disclaimer almost. It makes the decision of what to do more difficult the more people know we are pregnant I just don't want the random suggestions or opinions from people who I love dearly but who really have no idea and no true knowledge of our history.

My SIL (clever girl she is ) messaged this morning to find out how it was after the IL's mentioned they were down watching the little ones. I filled her in reluctantly. Not that I don't want her to know but she is due in the same month before me and she doesn't need to have her pregnancy tarnished with worry for me. She sent back a "worry, shmorry" comment and reminded me of the positives but recognising that none of that helps at the moment. She is a good woman. She sends us flowers (or chocolates) every year for Caitlyn's birthday. She gets mega brownie points for that.

I am so tired - mostly emotionally but also a physical tired. I just need a few hours of meditation time I think. The likelihood of getting it is slim though. Candles will have to do.

[Freya]

Michelle If I had of known you were at work last night I would have sought you out just to give you a hug in person!

I swear Jett is going to kill me with his whinging. I feel bad for the little dude but geez, Im not going to carry him around the house or feed him food and help him sip drinks

[Inanna]

I'm glad your Dad's issue is "under control" my love... I just can't believe what a run you're having...

Freya I hope your spotty little fella is feeling better soon xxx

Kelly, Mako

Willow - I hope you can share what is worrying you soon - we are all here for you...

Lee: Glad you got some sleep!

Well I am enjoying school holidays & I am not sure how I am going to get back into the swing of school again! Just enjoying some lazy days with the kids - not doing too much...
I had a GP appointment today as last time my blood pressure was a bit high...

It is up still... (165/105, 158/107, 160/110)

So I am taking it morning and night for a week - but I feel safe to say it's antihypertensives for me...
I am feeling stressed and strung out with regard to relocation etc, selling the house ...
Now, I am stressed I am going to have a stroke...

A settlement has finally been agreed upon... So that is a very good thing...
Mr Wonderful is aware I plan on relocating to victoria & I have made an appointment with a Court registered mediator to begin the mediation process. Nowadays a Court case cannot be heard in the family law Court without attempting mediation.
So I go on Thursday & then they contact him and he goes and then we are to go at the same time. I am requesting a separate session as he just intimidates me and I think I would have a stroke...

Anyway feeling a little better that a financial agreement has been reached. But stressed about the relocation... *breathe*

[Inanna]

I'm glad your Dad's issue is "under control" my love... I just can't believe what a run you're having...

Freya I hope your spotty little fella is feeling better soon xxx

Kelly, Mako

Willow - I hope you can share what is worrying you soon - we are all here for you...

Lee: Glad you got some sleep!

Well I am enjoying school holidays & I am not sure how I am going to get back into the swing of school again! Just enjoying some lazy days with the kids - not doing too much...
I had a GP appointment today as last time my blood pressure was a bit high...

It is up still... (165/105, 158/107, 160/110)

So I am taking it morning and night for a week - but I feel safe to say it's antihypertensives for me...
I am feeling stressed and strung out with regard to relocation etc, selling the house ...
Now, I am stressed I am going to have a stroke...

A settlement has finally been agreed upon... So that is a very good thing...
Mr Wonderful is aware I plan on relocating to victoria & I have made an appointment with a Court registered mediator to begin the mediation process. Nowadays a Court case cannot be heard in the family law Court without attempting mediation.
So I go on Thursday & then they contact him and he goes and then we are to go at the same time. I am requesting a separate session as he just intimidates me and I think I would have a stroke...

Anyway feeling a little better that a financial agreement has been reached. But stressed about the relocation... *breathe*

[kellym]

Sorry guys.. don't have time right now to read everyone's posts.. but have a quick question.. I'm very confused and getting lots of mixed advice about swimming after the D&C... I was told not to swim for one week but I'm hearing (and reading) lost of advice saying to wait 6 weeks.. WTF?? Can anyway shed some light on this for me? I don't want to do the wrong thing but I'm desperate to swim again... it's soooo hot over here and DS is loving the water! I'm sure I had some tablets after the last D&C to help stop infection too and this time I don't have anything.. so just want to be really careful. Thanks so much and I'll try to pop back tomorrow to have a good read and maybe even attempt personals... although it's so hard when everyone keeps walking in on me every five seconds... no bloody privacy around here!!

Love to you all and hope everyone is doing ok... we're really having a rough time in here atm... surely things need to turn around... AND SOON!!

Kel xxx

[Laney]

BW, Grayson has had the same issue after all of his shots so far. It only lasted a day or two.

Kel, after my D&E they told me no baths or swimming for 6-8 weeks. That might be because i had to be dilated a lot, I was 22 weeks along. I was not put on antibiotics either. I only took them right before the D&E.

Michelle, I don't know if you remember but when I was pregnant with Shelby my bloods came back 1:30. I think I made an appt. for an amnio twice and cancelled it twice. My mind changed everyday about what I wanted to do even after we made our "final decision on the matter". Did you get to see your blood results? What numbers were higher or lower than the average?



We are still TTC here. I had a chemical pregnancy with my last cycle. I now have my script for clexane and I am ready for another bfp.

[Michelle71]

Kelly - as far as I am aware you can swim if you have ceased bleeding. The cessation of bleeding usually indicates healing has occurred. Considering you can ovulate 2 weeks after and conceive as well I don't see the rationale for waiting 6-8 weeks. I can in the case of Laney with a dilation for a much later pregnancy but even after birth you can swim as soon as the bleeding has ceased. There is usually no need for antibiotics post D&C.

Laney - my free BHCG was 3.1 and PAPP-A 0.66.

Man this is hard work. DH is withdrawn trying to process it all and I need him more than ever. He said this morning "at least you have the BB girls - I have no one independent or that I trust that I can talk to about it" I know it is hard for him too but DON'T SHUT ME OUT Feeling very alone (despite having you ) and needing a hug and some time with DH.

[mako]

Kelly I too wouldn't wait if the bleeding has stopped. I went swimming the day mine stopped as I couldn't handle not swimming any longer while everyone else was in having a great time with Sage. I know my situation is different to yours cos I didn't have a D&C (just removal of stuff via an internal without having to go to theatre) Sorry that was a lot of TMI but I wasn't given A/B's this time either( did previously).

Michelle Oh hunny I wish I could make all this better for you and DH. My DH says the exact same thing at times and I even told him he could join and chat in the Mens section if he wanted but of course he said no. We get that its tough for everyone involved including the daddys but it doesn't help the 2 of you if he shuts you out hun I wish I was closer so I could give you a IRL.

Deb Wonderful news that you have a financial agreement with Mr Wonderful. Lets hope the house sale and the relocation go smoothly for you hun. I really hope your BP settles too
Laney Sending you a to hun. I'm sorry to hear about your chemical preg. Lets hope you get a very sticky BFP very soon.

I had a shocker yesterday. Not feeling 100%. I felt very light headed quite a few times to the point where I fell over in Sage's room yesterday afternoon.I'm not too sure what is going on but my asthma is playing up and have a bit of sinus going too. Just hoping I pick up a bit soon that's all. Feeling rather run down but that's to be expected right?

[kellym]

Thanks girls. The bleeding has pretty much stopped.. I didn't really have much.. just a bit of brown muck now (sorry if TMI).. so I assume that would be ok to get in the pool now.

Must go.. off to the MIL this morning so DS can have another good play with his cousin. Will bbl.

Kel xxx