Parenting after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March/April 2010

[butterfly_warrior]

Bek, I don't know that I'm much help with sleeping, but I did want to mention that Sam at nearly 16 months old is still being wrapped for his day sleeps. He doesn't need it at night, as he's usually more tired and much calmer after a bath and then a bottle - DH lays down with him on our bed and he goes to sleep without wrapping. But it MUST be DH - never me. If I have to get Sam down to sleep at night, I still need to wrap him. For day sleeps - he often hits a weird kind of hyper-state to indicate that he's tired, and wrapping him is the only way we can get him to stop and be still long enough to fall asleep. He protests, but it's just because he wants to keep running around and playing despite being tired. Once he's wrapped, he snuggles in and is happy to be rocked/cuddled to sleep in a quiet room with some soft music. I would definitely suggest trying the wrap again. We have some large lengths of cheesecloth and muslin that we use to wrap him - he still gets a bit sweaty (like all little boys, it seems) but it's nothing a big drink of water when he wakes up can't fix. For really hot days he'll sleep in our room with the fan or air conditioner on, or on the lounge with the main air conditioner rather than in his cot.

I've had to put all thoughts of IVF out of my head for a while. I don't think stopping my meds over winter is a good plan, so there's NOTHING that can happen until the weather starts to warm up again (and considering it hasn't really got cold yet, that's a long way away!). It's just way too much to contemplate right now - I have some work issues that I need to deal with when I get back after the holidays and I need to focus on that for now. Hopefully if I push it to the back of my mind, it won't be such a scary concept when the time comes - just thinking of the way the brain tends to work on things quietly in the background.

Michelle - thinking of you today . I know the game will be emotional, but I also hope that it is healing for you.

BW