try to stay away from the 'beautiful' comments (it's kinda hard, because when we as parents say it I think WE mean it in a more rounded way - like everything about them is beautiful/wonderful/amazing) if she is stuck on it as a superficial term.

It sucks to have to deal with this so early though
Thanks Lulu. I'm going to have to become far more aware of what words I'm using when talking to DD. She is a very pretty little girl and she gets lots of compliments on her looks so I'm not sure how to handle that with others. I'm so painfully aware of the pressure on girls these days to be/look a certain way and it breaks my heart that my 4 year old is even aware of it.