ohhh SO glad it's not just me!!! My DS1 is the same, has been for the last 6 months. And I regularly get "I hate you!" and now DD is getting in on the act. I calmly say "well I LOVE you" LOL

Mine has improved slightly, and now he will apologise immediately after for speaking to me like he did. It's been a long frustrating road though. I just have been giving him a warning I guess.....more of a chance to correct it with "excuse me??" and then if he starts screeching at me I just send him to his room, not to come out until he will speak civil to me. Yes he carries on and the neighbours must hing lord knows what but I want him to know I have no time or energy for rudeness.

My DD has much more staying power (like yours) and will go for ages, hours sometime. And she is loud on a whole new level. Again I do the same and just wait until she calms down.

I think what you are doing is fine, just keep going Consistency is the key and eventually she will learn that that attitude just won't get her anywhere.

Make a big deal when she does speak nicely and ask for stuff politely, explain this is how you want her to talk all the time. I tell my kids it's ok to get angry and frustrated at times but they need to go use their own space (rooms) to cool of for some time alone. Having an attitude and being rude to me does nothing except get us both upset.

Oh and please don't take the "I hate you" personally.

xxx