Oh, Leash, you took the words right out of my mouth....I swear we must live in a parallel universe...I seem to stalk all your threads with "me too" and "same here", LOL.
I particularly dislike the fact that DH can't get up during the night to Jack cos he can't BF him.Sometimes he only needs a cuddle to go back to sleep, but, you know, he has to work the next day . Jack also refuses to take a bottle, will take a sippy cup with water but not with BM. Sometimes I feel like I am trapped or stuck but when I think of the alternative (weaning) I wouldn't have it any other way.
As you can see I dont have any advice (once again) but I am here if you need to talk cos I know exactly how you feel!
Same marlene, she will almost drain a sippy cup of water but not EBM it drives me completely batty!! I would love to just go and leave Shel but dealing with her (uh, her meaning SHEL) once I get back would be a nightmare. Which is why I haven't done it. The only time I've had away is for driving lessons, which are NOT my idea of relaxing OR fun! lol
ARGH! And I want to sleep too. As a side vent. I want to sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep. lol
That makes me too Marlene, I always feel like I'm saying me too in Leash's posts!!
I personally think Shel needs a bit of a kick up the bum. She is a parent as well, regardless of her ability to BF or not, so she needs to learn to console Jazz if she gets upset & you're not around. It's not fair for one parent to have to do all the work & not get a break. Yes you BF and that's a great way to calm your daughter down, but Shel should be able to look after her as well.
If you go out for an hour without Jazz she will survive. Maybe feed Jazz then hand her straight to Shel and head out for a little while. Surely Shel can manage for half an hour (to start with) while you duck off to the shops for a coffee or something, if Jazz has just been fed I'm sure they'd survive for 1/2 an hour
I agree.. feed her, hand her over and walk away. No better way for the other half to learn how to parent the baby. Offer some ideas on what to do.. if she's tired, perhaps she can rock her to sleep in the pram, or going for a walk in the garden seemed to work for our kids. Shel's gotta find HER way of settling Jazz.
It irritated me too when I'd get handed the upset baby to feed, but hey, you have to admit it's pretty special being the only one who can do that
If you only go out for 1/2 a day or something, she can easily survive on water & solids until you get back, no real need to express or force her to have EBM from a cup or anything if she doesn't want it. It's really just a case of Shel working out ways of distracting/entertaining Jazz and possibly getting her to sleep until you get back. Sounds overwhelming I guess, but really, she just has to get in and do it.. it's not THAT hard.
I agree with Sarah . Shel is her mum too and is perfectly capable of soothing her. She just may need a bit of a push to learn this.
make some nice plans, feed Jazz, hand her over and go out....
I would like some sleep too.... if there's any going round
When I was feeling like Punky was constantly attached I did just what the girls here have already suggested, I fed her & then left straight away. She suprised me the first time I did it by being a perfect little angel for her Daddy, so perhaps, or probably, Jazz will be the same.
How is she when you have your driving lesson? To be honest, I have found that when boobie just isn't an option, it isn't an issue. Punky's not after it when I'm not here as she knows there is none to be had.
I hope Shel steps up & helps you out with this, you need some you time & a bit of a break to recharge your batteries.
Good luck hun, you are doing such a freaking awesome job. xoxo
I know how you feel. Myles is still on the boob and i just want my body back! I wabt to be! And like you I love it also! Sleep pfft its overated as Myles thinks
I dont have much advice but just do what is right for you and tell Shel she needs to suck it up and let you go out! Jazz may cry but she will be able to amuse her with something! If Myles cries and he is with Geoff I get " can you deal with this"
Your doing a fabulous job and you should be so proud
Leash you're doing so great and it's totally understandable that you feel this way! Just remember that Jazz loves you not because you're "the boob" but because you're her mum! Maybe just after a feed, nip down the shops - tell Shel it's just for ten minutes... and take a little (or maybe a lot) longer to get back... and accidentally forget to take your mobile.... I thought you said at one stage that Shel was planning to take a year off to look after Jazz too? if so she will need to know how to settle her and there's no time like the present to start! Hope you can get some time out
. Jack also refuses to take a bottle, will take a sippy cup with water but not with BM. Sometimes I feel like I am trapped or stuck but when I think of the alternative (weaning) I wouldn't have it any other way.
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