That makes me too Marlene, I always feel like I'm saying me too in Leash's posts!!

I personally think Shel needs a bit of a kick up the bum. She is a parent as well, regardless of her ability to BF or not, so she needs to learn to console Jazz if she gets upset & you're not around. It's not fair for one parent to have to do all the work & not get a break. Yes you BF and that's a great way to calm your daughter down, but Shel should be able to look after her as well.

If you go out for an hour without Jazz she will survive. Maybe feed Jazz then hand her straight to Shel and head out for a little while. Surely Shel can manage for half an hour (to start with) while you duck off to the shops for a coffee or something, if Jazz has just been fed I'm sure they'd survive for 1/2 an hour