i think that frayed feeling is so common and your not alone in it at all, i think with both yours and dh's depression maybe you could get re evaluated by a dr?
tips... who cares about messy homes, ppl come to see you not ya mess!
i used to shower with ds when he would cry this calmed him down and bathed with him too and BF or bottle fed in the bath so he would settle. Are you able to call on a family member or friend just to do some dishes or house work for ya or maybe cook ya some tea so ya dont have to worry about it?
just remember this is a normal time of frayed feelings its such a new routine for you both and its so full on plz do your best to drink loads of water and eat well. you are doing a great job !!!
Do you have any support network you could call on to help? Parents? siblings? friends? If not maybe get in touch with a doc or community nurse or something and ask them about any support programs you could access in your area.
Having a newborn is stressful for anyone, particularly so if you have other things happening in your life, such as depression.
It is important (even if it sounds impossible) to try and get time out each day. For me that means 30mins in the bath, no kids, no distractions and a good book - but it can be whatever you want. Make sure your partner is getting at least this small amount of time out for himself too. If you can arrange it somehow (maybe when bubs is sleeping, or if you have someone to babysit and feel comfortable leaving them for a bit) try and spend some quality time with your partner - no baby talk, no money talk (you don't even have to talk at all if you cann't think of anything else to talk about) but just try and spend the time together.
you are doing a great job !!!
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