Ali - right now I am tying myself in knots with extreme and probably near irrational paranoia about SIDS. I lost a neice to SIDS in 07 and its so bad I can't even seem to look forward to my babies arrival. I am so scared of losing her that I am near enough too afraid to accept her in the first place.

on the flip side...

When Sam had his near drowning on NYD, I had nightmares for months afterwards. I couldnt close my eyes without seeing him in the water. I was literally passing out from exhaustion at night rather than going to sleep.

There is a saying in a signature around here I think is suited to this thread.

having a child is forever having your heart to walk around outside your body.

A certain amount of these fears is, imo, healthy. It keeps you alert to dangers. But don't let them control you. Have confidence in yourself to be a mum because you are aware of these things. But never relax from the fear enough to let your guard down.