I am very close to a lady that had her baby same time I did and the reason it didn't take long to get there is that we quite often have weeks a little more tedious and quite openly vent about it. There is nothing tabu about showing true emotion these days and you might find that the women might be relieved and share the same situations they've experienced as you have. I know how you feel though, sometimes it can be rough when bubs is a pain in the rear but having a cry (or a mega tantrum like I did last week) does help. don't bottle it up. If you are really worried about talking to them though i think you should go to a counciler (sp?) because they do listen and they aren't just for people with mental illness. they can let you vent anonomously and they make a world of difference.