My boy is like this at the moment. Similar age. I have cried in front of the kids several days running now. He is just so nasty to everyone! I understand we have had a big move and he is trying to find his balance, but it is making life just plain horrible. I am dreading the school holidays. And what is worse is that the younger two girls are exposed to him all the time and are copying his behaviour when I am trying so hard to teach them to resolve issues by talking and compromise and there he is throwing a whopper tantrum at the drop of a hat! Sorry for the hijack. I want my nice boy back

Have you tried active listening? It helped us quite a bit and let him talk about what was actually making him feel bad, but then we hit a wall because he won't even acknowledge his behaviour isn't that great and he just blames everyone else instead. It may help you out a bit though - it is quite amazing how much they will talk if you are listening the right way.

I hope it gets better soon for you
xx