Hugs Hun that sounds awful I've had a gutful of jamies behavior at the moment but at least he's not being violent hope u can find a way to get her to stop
Yeah I hope so too

Is there anyone at all you can get to take either your DD1 or your other two off your hands for a bit, so you can get some quality one-on-one attention with the others? Or even (heaven forbid ...) to lie down by yourself somewhere sunny and read/listen to music/ scream for a wee while ... ?
DS goes to daycare on a wed and fri and DD1 goes on a friday. So thats my peaceful day.

I know the feeling. DS1 was like that with DS2, just so rough all the time and it felt like all I was ever doing was breaking up fights. He would shove other kids for no apparent reason too, but mostly his brother. Do other people look at you like you should be doing something about it? I really hated the looks like I could somehow fix my son who just seemed to want to hurt his little brother at every opportunity, that I was being a terrible parent for letting it happen. I smacked, I gave countless time outs, I spoke to him in a rational manner, as did everyone else I know, but it didn't make a scrap of difference.
It isn't your fault. She will grow out of it and you will start to like her again, but it could be a while. I am not really sure when the violence stopped, but it did, and now they get along really well (most of the time). Good luck trying not to strangle her or give her away.
She doesn't seem to do it to others - just her siblings

They really try to test us don't they?!?
Yes. Yes they most certainly do!

I'm hearing ya Mel! DD is driving me nutty atm but at least she doesn't have anyone to beat up! My friend you are either a saint or crazy, or perhaps a bit of both.
Dunno bout the saint part - but the crazy is true.

What is it about the second child??? My DS2 sounds very similar to your DD1! He is so MEAN sometimes. As soon as I'm out of the room he's hurting DD or snatching something from her. He can be so mean to his big brother too. Last night DS1 made a tower out of blocks, held it up and said "Look Mum..", before he could finish his sentence, DS2 ran straight past him and knocked it out of his hands making it fall apart all over the floor. When I told him off, all he did was SMILE! Grrrrrrr.....
Urgh that sounds exactly like DD1... sooo frustrating. Must be a second child thing cos my sister was really mean to me, and DH's sister was really mean to him!

I can totally relate to losing patience and most things you have written about your situation except my patience has been lost over DS (he is always pushing DD2 over, throws a tantrum about just about anything). I feel like I could tear my hair out.

I don't have any advice for you but please know you are not alone
Thank you

I can't remember how old she is - but have you tried asking her why she is doing it? Her answer may surprise you...

Another suggestion - call your community health service (you must have one) and ask if they have a parenting support worker. We have one in my council who does home visits - sounds like it might be time to reach out and get some help on this one.

More big hugs to you. At least she is outside where she can't hurt anyone and you can calm down a bit.
She is 2. She wouldn't understand enough to give me an answer if I asked her I don't think. She has a pretty good vocab but not really good with expressing her feelings yet. I'm not sure about the parenting worker - might have to look around a bit. And yes, the only person she can hurt outside is our dog, and she trashes everything out there, but I don't care, cos at least its not her siblings.

Is she bored? I know my DD gets into mischief if she is not kept entertained with something to do constantly!! LOL!! Can you get out the paints outside for her to paint all over herself with instead of hitting her siblings?

Does she need more one-on-one time with Mum? Sounds like she's got some attention seeking behaviours there and maybe she just needs that extra time with Mum some days?
one on one time? Hmm.. hard with the other two, but we do the best we can here. She gets my attention on a wednesday when DD2 is sleeping and DS is at daycare. I put her to bed every night now by sitting next to her bed and stroking her hair - never had to do that before, but we've started doing it now in the hope it would help - it hasn't. DH feeds her her dinner every night because she refuses to eat unless its fed to her - never had to do that before, she always fed herself. We don't even do these things for DD1 - so she does get special attention (as much as we can give, we're only human after all).

Hugs hun i hope her behaviour improves soon. DS1 behaviour can be bad, he sits or lies on DS2 takes things off him etc.

I am here if you want to *****, talk, cry etc.

xoxo
Thanks mate

Oh big Mel, I don't have any suggestions as I haven't been there...yet! I hope she grows out of it soon!!
Same here, or else she may not survive till 3!

Mel. I don't have any advice but I feel for you. DS has started hitting, biting & kicking and I don't know what to do about it either. DH's solution is to shut him in the laundry but I don't think it works. I think he does it in frustration and that only makes it worse IYKWIM. If you find a solution - please share In the meantime here's another . Here's hoping the phase passes quickly.
We used to put her in the corner for time out - did nothing. We put her in her bedroom - did nothing, she played with her toys quite happily. So now she has to go outside because if she can't play nicely, then she can't play with us at all - thats the rule.

Thanks guys, I've calmed down a bit, and will probably get her inside now - a brief shower went through just before so she got a bit rained on... lol