Div, Matilda has those tantrums still, not as bad as they were but she still does the violent tanty. She will kick and bite you on the way to time out and then try to hurt you as you have to hold her down. We started putting her into the "Cool Down" room instead, so she could get it all out in a safe place like the bathroom which we have changed to not have anything in there that she could hurt herself on. Then when she has stopped screaming etc, we open the door & go into her and sit there and ask her what she did, and then explain with her why she did it (i.e. frustrated... Jovie took her toy... etc etc) and then what else she could have done (told Mummy, walked away, found another toy) and we go back & apologise to Jovie.

Sometimes when we are in discussing stuff, she gets cranky again & starts hitting etc, so we walk out again until she is able to talk with us. I give her a pillow to scream into as well teaching her good tantrum tactics.