I never cook 2 meals. I'm not running a restaurant.
My children have plenty of healthy food offered to them throughout the day and if they miss a meal they're not going to starve.
Tonight I served Shepherd's Pie. Yasin looked at it and ran from the room SCREAMING lol. Imran and I sat down and started eating and Yasin deigned to join us. I told him that as a compromise he could eat the potato only. He yelled at me. I told him that if he didn't want to do that then he could have his bath and go to bed. He got under the table and screamed. Imran and I finished our meal and went and had a bowl of ice-cream. Yasin stayed under the table screaming. I told him it was bath time unless he ate his food. He got out from under the table, ate his food, declared it delicious and had some desert as well.
It took about half and hour of blood curdling screaming but we got there in the end lol. Luckily my neighbours have raised children of their own so they're not fazed by Yasin's screaming show-downs.
I buy my children matching but not identical toys and they play together with them ie Yasin owns Thomas and Imran owns James and they both own some track and they play trains togther. Same with the Little People sets and so on. Anything that saves me from dealing with fights over toys is my kind of parenting. I'm not into making stress for myself.