Darl, you're a wonderful mum and please have courage in your decisions.

The thing is, when we feel judgement, it's because people don't know our little ones as well as we know them ourselves.

I have an able-bodied child so I don't have anywhere near as much on my plate as you do .. but even I feel judged.

My DD is extremely active and she will not take no for an answer. So when I use a harness to stop her running into traffic, I can feel myself judged by people who have very placid children who walk by their side, hand-in-hand. They have obviously never experienced a toddler who would run in front of a car in a blink of an eye.

Just keep on doing what you're doing which is loving your daughter and giving her a very secure base. You're doing a great job. We all feel judged but we have to try not to let it get to us.