That sounds pretty full on hun.
I don't have any advice cause it sounds like you are doing everything you can. Is it worth you looking into Tresillian or similar??? I'm not sure the age thing but worth a try maybe??
Sending you lots of xx
Oh Kim big hugs hun You sound really stressed out, you poor thing.
We have issues with sleep here too, though I am pretty sure my issues would be heaven to you, lol! Liam sleeps with me and Lily sleeps with DH. We haven't slept in the same bed for almost 2yrs. It is stressful. DH doesn't mind so much though. I mean he would love to be in the same bed, but he's of the thinking that it's only temporary. And it is, but it is taking longer than we would like for them to go to their own room!
I want to do things gently, but have no idea how to get DS out of my bed. Its all he's ever known. DH can't even get him to sleep at night. I can't be out at sleep time at night or he will not sleep. I have been out once at a meeting for work, and Liam stayed awake til 9.30pm. His bed time is usually 6.30. As soon as his booby was in his mouth and I was laying next to him he was out like a light. I don't know how to break this habbit. He is quite happy to sleep in the bed alone, even with DH putting him to sleep, during the day, but come night fall and it HAS to be me. He will wake 2-4 times between 6.30 and when I get to bed, usually at 11ish. Then he will wake usually 1-2 times or so. But the last few weeks he's teething and he's been up for 30mins-1 1/2hrs through the night some nights (can't wait for all his teeth to cut!) Though before the teething, we had been getting more sleep throughs after I go to bed, but I still wake because he sleeps literally on top of me, or kicks me or hits his head on the wall/bedframe and wakes me in a panic that he's fallen off the bed!
I have no advice for you hun, sorry, but you're not alone. I don't so much mind the cosleeping. Or even not sleeping with DH (well, not TOO much!) it's the sleeplessness that kills me. I'm just such a grumpy b itch these days. I hate being like this. More sorry it's making you feel so crappy.
Kim. Seriously I could have written that exact post. The sleeping and the separation anxiety/clingyness to mummy.
We have also given up on the cot and DS sleeps with us and still wakes up very often. Usually he just wants another nurse and cuddle and drifts back off to sleep, but nonetheless, it wakes me up! He can quite often wake up every 5-10 minutes for the first hour or two and then he may sleep for a decent hour or so block, but he will then start waking every 5-10 minutes again and the cycle continues. He isn't fully awake, but he is wimpering, tossing and turning and wanting to nurse which keeps me awake. The sleep deprivation I endure is definitly torturous so I understand what you're going through. This morning I yelled at him to shut up after hours of constant 5 minutely waking/wimpering/rolling around. It was 7am and he had been been doing this since DP left for work at 3am. I swear I got no decent sleep last night at all, only that really light sleep/half awake type sleep Needless to say, my outburst definitely woke him up so I had to get up and start the day...lol
Like you, I can't relax with him screaming so I continue doing what I'm doing. I just keep telling myself that he will grow out of it...and I really hope he does. He also does not want a bar of DP so it's only me (or bbs really) that can settle him. If I leave the room or walk away from him he starts wailing.
You can vent away all you like to me - we can vent together! I have no idea what to do but just keep hoping that it's going to change soon
With the waking after 45 mins at night, thinking it's just a nap, maybe he needs another nap in the afternoon?
Well he's crying so I better run...he has woken up umpteen times while trying to type all this
hun, i was going to suggest much the same as Astrid and look into food issues and or osteo, thats what im looking into with DD2, though she isnt as bad, we also have shocking seperation anxiety and i swear in over the whinging alllllllllllll day, its driving me bonkers, so im not much help but also wanted to give you a hug
i did look into it but sort of didnt make it past that!! i did change to nuttalex and sometimes get A2 milk but that was it, im going to take DD2 to a nautropath near me that checks for allergies to milk/soy/wheat
big Kim, DD wasn't as bad but she went through the worst period between 10-13 months. I was a complete zombie. I think that it's actually a really bad time for sleep, there is so much development and so many milestones going on, and of course by then people think bubba should have been sleeping through from 8 weeks so they are totally unsympathetic
So no advice from me (the other girls have offered plenty of that) just some hugs and a reminder that it will pass!
Kim, I just wanted to offer you lots of hugs. You sound like you need a whole lot of them, plus a break too sounds like you've had a really tough first year with your little man.
I don't really have any practical suggestions, it sounds like you've probably tried anything & everything. And I'm sorry to hear that your DH isn't on the same page as you. It makes it even tougher.
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after hours of constant 5 minutely waking/wimpering/rolling around. It was 7am and he had been been doing this since DP left for work at 3am. I swear I got no decent sleep last night at all, only that really light sleep/half awake type sleep
Needless to say, my outburst definitely woke him up so I had to get up and start the day...lol
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