There you go Jen - hitting the nail on the head again! He just wants to be King of the Kids....

But then again, he does try to discipline them. Which is much harder for him because they can never really tell if he is joking or not. Then he gets angry because they don't take him seriously. His 'discipline and guidance' mean BELLOWING at them and lecturing them. He talks over the top of DS constantly, then gets angry when DS throws himself to the floor in frustration.

Again, the noise level when he is here .
The other day I asked him to see what would happen if he lowered his voice and took a kinder tone when talking to DS.
DS sat back, looked at him and asked "are you being a real daddy?"