hun, sometimes it's those little OH NO moments that actually help move things along.

Start small, don't put too much pressure on yourself, just go with it.. i'm sure there are some awesome ideas on changing his bedtime routine etc out there.
Like i said though maybe get DH to start coming in with you or getting him to start a new routine, bath, cuddles, story with dad then bed etc etc?
Maybe introduce step 1 nath, then step 2 story with dad then step 3 dad patting then step 4 dad kissing goodnight then walk out etc etc..
So true! We've got a pretty good bedtime routine down pat... DH does bath and story, but he insists on having me give him his cuddle and put him to bed... Never used to be that way, DH used to always do bed but then it slowly changed. We've decided that I'm going to have a night away in the next few weeks so that DS's first experience of me being gone for the whole night isn't when bubs arrived. I'm actually really excited about it! I was given a hotel voucher from work at christmas, so am going to book myself a night at the Como and spend the afternoon having spa treatments. Initially I thought i would invite a friend, but now I'm thinking the 'me' time would be even better

I think we just need to bite the bullet on it. We've tried quite a few times where I've gone out before bedtime. But then when I've gotten home DS has been upset and calling for me, so I end up coming in and doing it. With me being gone for the night, they're going to have to figure it out for themselves, even if that means DS sleeps in our bed, or falls asleep on the couch watching TV...

Naps, I'm not so sure about. If I don't rock/pat him to sleep for a nap he doesn't sleep. He seems to have a lot of trouble unwinding during the day (but no problems at night) and if I leave him to go to sleep by himself he lays there for 15 or 20 mins and gets up... I think we might just keep going as we always have and deal with it day by day when bubs arrives.

Sorry, I've started rambling on and on now! Just feeling a lot more in control today and assured that everything isn't going to fall peices. It's also good because I think DH is actually thinking about this stuff too now, so it doesn't feel like all the weight is on my shoulders if that makes sense.