that 'me' time sounds perfect!! and probably a great chance for your DH & DS to work things out a bit

i've been out occasionally in the evenings until after bedtime & tbh for a while it was a case of DS just falling asleep on DP in front of the tv. i also worked for a couple of months on DP's day off & the same thing would happen (although often at the computer, listening to music). i used to feed DS to sleep then we moved on to me lying next to him & giving him cuddles but that didn't work for DP so they just found their own rythym. these days DP can do the same as i do for naps/bedtime but it did take quite a few times of them doing their own thing before it got to that stage (and it has coincided with DS becoming far easier to put to bed as well). either way, i think your DH & DS will figure things out & come up with something that works for them sometimes it's a good thing if dads don't do exactly the same as mum

i'm glad you had an epiphany (albeit an emotional one!), it sounds like it's really clarified in your mind the things you need/want to sort out before the baby comes & probably brought underlying concerns to the surface.