Oh, man! I would definitely have copped a 'you have to cope better' lecture
If it helps, tonight DS wouldn't go to bed because it's the third Wed night in a row that I've been on my own, albeit last week and the week before he was gone for two other nights in the week cos he was doing a few days away with work. Still, it has really pushed me - I've found myself grabbing DS and pulling him into his room to go to bed after the millionth time of getting out and messing around...at 10pm...
So, yes, not having help when the dynamic usually involves another parent is sooooo hard. I certainly can see how you could get to the point of throwing something!