It's so good that you've got a good relationship with his mother!

That's awful that he can't geth imself together enough just for a visit with his son. (Great name, btw - my little boy is called Tom ). Good for you for sticking up for the right thing to do, and for making sure your boy is safe. It's so hard having to watch your child do without a parent, though, isn't it?
um atcually no as i was Toms mum and dad for so long and now he has a step dad it is getting easier (but yes i hear you)