um atcually no as i was Toms mum and dad for so long and now he has a step dad it is getting easier (but yes i hear you)
That's so good that you look at it that way

I was probably thinking more of my own situation - my two older girls have a different father to my other kids, and he's been a flake all their lives. Even though they've had a stepdad who adores them, it's been really hard to watch their disappointment when their bio-dad has let them down yet again.